| No, student615, that was not silly at all. I've been thinking, "Skype" since I read the OP and all the subsequent posts.
Lost in trans, it would be my hope that, if communication were easier and more commonplace, it would become less stressful.
Please do all you can to take care of yourself. You are carrying a sad and heavy burden. It also gives you credibility as you urge your daughter to seek the support she deserves and needs.
You are absolutely not helicoptering. You are actually behaving in a very restrained manner. It does appear to me, after reading your posts, that the time for more involvement or intervention is at hand. As others have suggested here, the time may also have come to reconsider the decision to send her to school. While she may not be able to "help" her father, she may need your hugs and to help and support you. She may now believe that coming home is some kind of failure and that she needs to "see this through." In her young logic, this makes sense. I hope that counseling will allow her to give yourself permission to change her mind.
Bless you and your family. |