| I agree that things might improve if you could communicate on a more regular basis, so that a call does not panic your D. Do you ever use SKYPE or JAJAH? They are so easy to use, and with jajah, you can initiate the call via the internet, but then speak to each other on regular phones or cell phones for pennies. If you have a cell plan with free incoming calls, it is pennies a minute for calls even to/from Europe. A regular phone call might help, even if you just make small talk about her day, your day, etc. You could gage her mood, etc. And a set call every 1-2 days or every 2-3 days might be a pattern that would lessen some stress.
If your D wants to stay in school, and if her dad is in a coma with no know prognosis for the immediate future or otherwise, I agree with your periodic communications with the dean and her advisor. It is NOT helicoptering. You are dealing with an unfortunate and unpredictable situation.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I think you are dealing with this in an extraordinary manner. You are a good mom. Get rest when you can. And come here to relieve your own stress when you need to! |