| revolcgirl, I know that your post was very meaningful to me and I hope will have some insights for the OP.
I do want to express a bit of a different experience re the death of a parent (respectfully, as I hope you will understand). My father died when I was in college. I did not feel any guilt about his death. I think this may well be the difference between losing a parent as a very young child, as you did. And losing a parent as a young adult.
As you say, we are always "children" to our parents, but I think your experience of immeasurable guilt may not be the experience this daughter will have. No way of knowing if her experience will be more like mine or more like yours. But I wouldn't want Lost in Translation to worry that her daughter will of necessity feel immeasurable guilt. She might not. She will mourn, I'm sure we all know that. Whether guilt will be a part of it, I don't know and can only hope not. |