| To the 'nurturing' mothers of LD'ers everywhere, who have chosen to "protect" or "save" their children (ages 8 through 17!) by not "subjecting" them to the "humiliation" of being identified as LD (thus helped, thus understood), exactly how do you find your actions "loving"?
(The same question can be asked of those mothers whose children are in fact already identified as LD but choose to forego accommodation & other adjustments, due to peer embarrassment. )
You come into supplemental educational centers, pay thousands (up to $11,000+) to have us supposedly help your children (marginally!), when those centers were not designed for Special Needs. You know that. You know that it's psychologically "safe" because these centers are the choice of mainstream kids who are being remediated but are not also LD.
When, after 5+ months of a program there, it's obvious from there & from school, that your child has significant cognitive processing disorders, we ask you about a plan to address that through your private school or public district, you retort that you can't make your soon "embarrassed" by separating him even for a moment from his non-LD friends, whom exactly do you feel you're serving?
What will you say to your son when he finds it hugely more embarrassing not to graduate with his classmates because he's still getting F's, based on your denial and/or your indulgence?
Would you find it too embarrassing for your son, if he were in a wheelchair, to ask for a wheelchair ramp?
Ma'am(s), "nurturing" you are not.
Last edited by epiphany : 03-02-2008 at 01:04 PM.
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