"I'm a little confused. In reference to black females wanting diversity because of the difficulty in dating outside their race. I always thought the black male and white female was less socially accepted than black female and white male because I have heard so many rantings from black females in movies and real life (some of them my associates) about how "they" steal the few college-educated men that we have left. "
Here are the facts: "The Census Bureau confirmed black women's complaints that white women were more likely to marry black men than white men were to marry black women. In 2000, African-American men had white wives 2.65 times more often than black women had white husbands. In other words, in 73 percent of black-white couples, the husband was black and wife was white.
(This interracial gender gap is even sharper among black-white couples who cohabit without being married. Five times as many black men live with white women as white men live with black women.)
Although some commentators had predicted that this intermarriage disparity should be evening out, this 2.65 ratio is similar to the 2.54 ratio in 1990. (The invention of the "multiracial" category in 2000 makes direct "apples to apples" comparisons across time impossible.):
2000 Census Shows Interracial Marriage Gender Gap Remains Large by Steve Sailer for UPI; dating disparity, black-white couple, white-Asian pair, husband wife, Hispanic, intermarriage, relationship, Is Love Colorblind?
In addition, by American society's norms, black men --including black men with dark skin and "African" features are considered extremely attractive and sexy. Black women's typical features -- kinky hair, large booty, broad features -- are considered ugly.
There have been threads in the general CC cafe about what races are most attractive. Posts that mentioned black women said things like the black women who were attractive were people like Beyoncee and Vanessa Williams -- women who typically were bi-racial and had features, hair, body builds similar to what is considered attractive in white women.
Many black women are strongly against black men's dating white women because -- due to higher than mainstream death rates and incarceration rates, there is a shortage of available black men. Add to that, men of other races tend not to date black women.
Most of the black women whom I know who are in interracial marriages/relationships are either bi-racial or look bi-racial.
If black men want to date white women, it's easy to find white women to date. It's true that the women's parents may not be pleased with the situation, but the parents don't have to know.
Throughout my elementary and secondary schooling in my Upstate NY hometown, I attended overwhelmingly white schools including integrating my middle school, high school and elementary school. I naively went to school dances expecting to be treated like the other girls. The only time that I was ever asked to dance by a guy was in elementary school when the teachers made the guys ask all of the girls to square dance.
In middle school and high school, I was never asked to dance. I don't just mean "never asked to go to a dance by a guy," I mean I was never asked by a guy to dance. This was devastating particularly since my mom (who grew up in the segregated South) tried to be helpful by telling me that "no one notices you're Negro. Just smile more."
I thought that I must be hideous looking, but in reality I was a typical average to above average looking black girl. It wasn't until I went to Harvard, where my freshman class had the largest number of black students ever in Harvard's history -- 135 -- that I finally got dates, and, yes, was asked to dance.
Yet, in my high school, I remember when a black male student transferred in. He was ordinary looking, but my friends all talked about how "sexy" he was, and he got plenty of female attention.