| My H and I are opposites - He likes complete and total silence when concentrating, (and sleeping), and I like music. As I've gotten older, perhaps because of his influence, I've gotten used to the silence. But I had to remind him that not everyone is like him, because he used to get on our kids when he heard music coming from their rooms when they were supposed to be studying. He had a hard time with the concept. We compromised that if the kids' grades fell, then we as parents had a right to intervene in their study habits, but if all was well, we had no right. As far as I know, they still enjoy listening, but since they all have iPods and headphones, it's much less obvious - even when they ARE home.
So my guess is that your mom has a hard time with background music, so she thinks her way is the only way. Are you allowed to study with the door closed? If she can't see you, and can't hear you, will it still be an issue? But rather than make it an issue between you, or get defensive, perhaps you can calmly explain to her that you are a different person, and perhaps what always works for her is not the same as what works for you, but that you appreciate her concern, and will keep it in mind should your grades start to suffer. Ask her if there is a specific reason that she is concerned about you - is there something that has happened that makes her feel your current performance isn't good enough? |