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I propose that you consider that the question may have been asked for a totally innocent reason. For example, I can totally see myself asking something similar -- but not with any judgment behind it! Based on the concern you've expressed over the question your daugher was asked, I'm realizing that perhaps I am not always totally politically correct. BUT, I never intend to offend anyone.

I'm a naturally curious person, and I am always interested in learning as much as I can about someone I meet. If their physical appearance or look is unique, I'll occasionally ask what their ethnic background is -- again, NOT to be nosey, rude, or with any intention of being inappropriate! It's simply because I'm interested in knowing more about the person and about their background. It could certainly be the case in your daughter's situation. Perhaps they were simply interested in her, which is a great thing!