Here is my solution to the stress factor - my H & D are out of the country for the next 10 days on a school trip and I can't communicate with them! It leaves me free to be as stressed as I want without worrying I'm upsetting either of them (which I've been doing). D has been accepted to all of her safeties and some matches, rejected by 2 matches (!) and we are waiting for one more match where she really wants to go and 2 reaches (highly improbable). Though I am addicted to CC I do find the incredibly high stats of these kids a bit intimidating - and I always thought my D was pretty bright
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