| I provided a lot of logistical support for my son and loved (almost) every minute--not the waiting, though! I don't think it hurt him a bit and he was very grateful for the help. He ended up at a school he loves, is on the Dean's list, picks his own classes and does his own laundry. I also helped out with school plays (finding props, making costumes and fundraising) and another EC (fundraising for trips to competitions) while he was in hs. Most parents didn't have time to do these things and were very appreciative. Though my son could have done it all on his own--and we certainly wouldn't have intruded in the process if he didn't want us to--we would have missed out on many happy hours together on all those great college trips. The expertise I've gained from helping him I have used to help other people's kids, here on CC and in real life. I don't think this is sad or pathetic or damaging. It can be taken too far, but "no assistance" isn't the only sane path. |