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soozievt · 04-12-2008, 04:52 PM

actressmom,
Your D was in a tough situation as she entered the NYU Housing lottery with a roomie who was unable (understandably) to accept all the dorm options on their list, even though your D could.

It will be hard for your D to apartment shop given her summer plans. But maybe the roomie can scout apartments after both list their personal criteria and then your D might be able to do a day trip down to confirm or maybe you could. You are right about the constraints of signing a year's lease...something that gave me pause last year but turned out to not be the case for my D because of the unusual apartment arrangement she went into (as I described earlier) and so we only had to commit to the school year and were able to stipulate my D's start and end dates as we needed (not first or last days of month either!). But many students who have a year's lease either work in NYC in summers (your D could next summer) or sublet out to friends who do. I guess it is common but it is one more thing to deal with. My D won't have that issue next year as she will graduate (hard to fathom!) next May and will be staying on in NYC (which is one reason she wants Brooklyn as she thinks she may be able to afford that apartment on her own at that point compared to some others in the city).

I completely agree with you that we are the ones paying the bills and picking up the pieces. I only meant that at this point in my kids' lives, they are making decisions that affect them and I tend to discuss it with them and support them but it doesn't mean I don't advise them or in some cases, have to stipulate what we can or will pay for. But for many things that I may not choose if it were me, I do let them choose what they prefer given their age.

NMR...you are right....once you leave NYU Housing, it is hard to get back in. My D is living in NYU Housing this summer, even though she was off campus this past school year but she is being given housing for free and under a special circumstance. I doubt she could have gotten summer housing if the regular way.

04-12-2008, 04:52 PM	#33
soozievt CC College Counselor/Musical Theater Counselor Join Date: Aug 2004 Threads: 136 Posts: 10,427	actressmom, Your D was in a tough situation as she entered the NYU Housing lottery with a roomie who was unable (understandably) to accept all the dorm options on their list, even though your D could. It will be hard for your D to apartment shop given her summer plans. But maybe the roomie can scout apartments after both list their personal criteria and then your D might be able to do a day trip down to confirm or maybe you could. You are right about the constraints of signing a year's lease...something that gave me pause last year but turned out to not be the case for my D because of the unusual apartment arrangement she went into (as I described earlier) and so we only had to commit to the school year and were able to stipulate my D's start and end dates as we needed (not first or last days of month either!). But many students who have a year's lease either work in NYC in summers (your D could next summer) or sublet out to friends who do. I guess it is common but it is one more thing to deal with. My D won't have that issue next year as she will graduate (hard to fathom!) next May and will be staying on in NYC (which is one reason she wants Brooklyn as she thinks she may be able to afford that apartment on her own at that point compared to some others in the city). I completely agree with you that we are the ones paying the bills and picking up the pieces. I only meant that at this point in my kids' lives, they are making decisions that affect them and I tend to discuss it with them and support them but it doesn't mean I don't advise them or in some cases, have to stipulate what we can or will pay for. But for many things that I may not choose if it were me, I do let them choose what they prefer given their age. NMR...you are right....once you leave NYU Housing, it is hard to get back in. My D is living in NYU Housing this summer, even though she was off campus this past school year but she is being given housing for free and under a special circumstance. I doubt she could have gotten summer housing if the regular way.