| It sounds like you have some anxiety in social situations, but if you let yourself run away from every social situation whenever you get a bit anxious, you'll only make it worse for yourself. My suggestion would be to watch a movie with a character whose social abilities really make you admire them, then find somewhere you have never been before (a social place -- maybe a club; swing and salsa dance clubs work nicely for this), and go, pretending to be the most suave, sociable person you know (maybe even take on the persona from that movie). Ideally, you should keep your name, but besides that, make stuff up about yourself, be a new person, meet people and tell them all about yourself (once again, it would be best to tell them about things you are interested in and so forth, but be Mr/Ms Popularity). As you do this, you will likely become quite anxious (that's normal), but you should keep going and the anxiety will eventually subside.*
(*This is based on flooding, a technique used in behavioral therapies but cannot be taken as professional advice) |