LIMOMOF2-
Thanks-- but I confess--sometimes we just "cheat" and have non-kosher wine.
I fully agree that you should bring the candy with a brand new, unopened platter. That guarantees to the host that the plate has not been used already for meat or milk. Very good thinking.
As for p3t as kind-- she plans to give the rotgut wine to a few on her "list"-- watch out!! LOL!!!