| My s had a similar relationship with his girfriend. They dated for 2 1/2 yrs (long distance) during his college years. she is older than he. She is adorable and very sweet, but is the dependent type. The need to be needed can feel very nice, but it can get old. It is important for each of you to be able to stand on your own two feet. It doesnt mean that your fiancee can't change and become more independent, but if you are feeling too responsible for too much of the stability of the relationship, that can wear on you.
Can you readjust the relationship? Date without being engaged? Would that work or be too awkward? For my s, he didn't feel it was right to continue to date when he wasn't ready for a committment that she was hoping for, so they are now just friends. You are young, and you have plenty of time to make these big decisions. Youshould liten to that voice inside your head. It is the voice of reason. Good luck. |