| How close are you to your parents? I know someone who was once in a similar situation. The first thing he did was tell his parents and ask their advice in how to break it off. In his case, this was the right approach because his parents had become quite close to the young woman's mother. In a way, the conversation with his parents was a dress rehearsal for the "real" conversation. They were initially stunned, but then, of course, quickly said that if the young man had any doubts the best thing to do was to break it off ASAP. He did.
The break up was ugly--and he really benefited from being able to talk through what happened when he told her with his parents and having their support at a difficult time. When the angry phone call from her mother came, his parents were prepared for it. They were able to deal firmly with the girl's mother and make it abundantly clear that no, they were not going to try to help change their son's mind and persuade him to resume the relationship. Their toughest job though was dealing with one of his younger siblings, who had become very, very attached to this young woman. Again, his parents' involvement made it easier for him to deal with that problem.
I mention this in case the OP might like to consider this approach. |