| Your poor head must be swimming with all the advice you are hearing. I have a somewhat different idea to propose.
I assume your fiancee does not like the stress and fighting any more than you. May I humbly suggest that together you find a counselor to help you work through this? Any counselor worth their salt will help you both come to a decision you can live with. You will either resolve your problems and head to the altar, or together you will realize you have loved each other very much but not all loves lead to marriage.
If you suggest counseling, your girlfriend will probably assume right off the bat that you are breaking up with her. If you come from a place of "I really want to figure out a way for things to be better between us....." you might have more success.
Should you decide to go this route, do it with an open mind, willing to accept any outcome. If you are SURE you want to break the engagement, you received some wonderful advice in the prior posts.
Best of luck to you. I admire your courage and sensitivity. |