| My oldest combined her ECs with her friends.
She attended a very small private school ( graduating class 18) she actually didn't have a best friend in that small group of girls, but her friends were with her EC volunteer job, so every week when she worked ( 2 or 3 days) she got to see her friends.
It is also nice to have a group of friends away from school.
My younger daughter has ECs at school, including sports, and her friends are in those groups, on weekends she is often home, just recuperating from her week, and doing homework, but she sees her friends at school and after school.
Dating would push something off her list- I know there are people who can handle it, but I admire these young women and men, who have made the conscious decision to get to know themselves, before they get romantically involved with someone else.
They are so different now than how I saw high school kids 30 years ago.
And I think we( the royal we) should take credit for that.
We don't push them to have a boyfriend or girlfriend, just to have one.
The physical stuff can really cloud your judgement, I know it clouded mine. |