| Great post, mewarmo. It sounds like you really have a good grasp of your priorities and of who you are. The posts in this thread have shone so much light on this issue for me. This website is just invaluable.
I'm trying hard to back off, while still applying enough pressure to make sure my son doesn't lose his focus as he navigates his own rough waters. Very difficult, as I realize how much I am personally invested in his musical life. This is the area I really need to back away from, as he very well could follow his older brother's lead and decide not to make music his goal for college and life. It would be devastating for me, as I see how much talent and upside he has, but that is not a healthy place for me to be. So I'll keep some pressure on, into his junior year, and then I'll let him be his own guide. That will give me the time I need to divest myself from the process, if I can. |