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paying3tuitions · 05-01-2008, 09:41 PM

Echoing ucsd: it's always good to first run a search for same topics.

Replying here to your #1: I want the students to have their chance to ask questions. So when you feel that one parent is beginning to dominate the tour by asking you questions repeatedly, arguing or discussing, just say pointedly, "Thank you, I'll take the rest of your questions after the tour. Now, can we have some more questions from the students?" Refuse to make eye contact with or answer the domineering parent.

Think about it; you are the only one in the position to do that, so use your power and consider all the families present.

I also liked it when tourguides announced they were taking all the students aside for l0 minutes, without parents, to field questions.

My favorite tourguide, in addition to walking backwards (!), stopped to participate for a few moments at an outdoor table where some current students were spreading peanut-butter sandwiches for a homeless shelter. My D could see that the guide found it impossible to walk by without helping. This expressed the social values of that particular school. If, while touring, you pass by something that is simply a natural part of your school's culture (cheering a team, helping a project for a few moments, giving someone directions, or whatever) and if you feel comfortable, it will mean a lot to students to witness your brief participation with others on campus. JMO.

05-01-2008, 09:41 PM	#9
paying3tuitions Moderator Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: suburb of buffalo Threads: 54 Posts: 2,683	Echoing ucsd: it's always good to first run a search for same topics. Replying here to your #1: I want the students to have their chance to ask questions. So when you feel that one parent is beginning to dominate the tour by asking you questions repeatedly, arguing or discussing, just say pointedly, "Thank you, I'll take the rest of your questions after the tour. Now, can we have some more questions from the students?" Refuse to make eye contact with or answer the domineering parent. Think about it; you are the only one in the position to do that, so use your power and consider all the families present. I also liked it when tourguides announced they were taking all the students aside for l0 minutes, without parents, to field questions. My favorite tourguide, in addition to walking backwards (!), stopped to participate for a few moments at an outdoor table where some current students were spreading peanut-butter sandwiches for a homeless shelter. My D could see that the guide found it impossible to walk by without helping. This expressed the social values of that particular school. If, while touring, you pass by something that is simply a natural part of your school's culture (cheering a team, helping a project for a few moments, giving someone directions, or whatever) and if you feel comfortable, it will mean a lot to students to witness your brief participation with others on campus. JMO. Last edited by paying3tuitions : 05-01-2008 at 09:53 PM.