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Momwaitingfornew · 05-03-2008, 09:00 AM

Sadmom, I feel for you and your son, but Northstarmom is right: if your son knew what your budget was, he should not be surprised. Of course, that won't keep him from being deeply disappointed. You'll have to deal with that aspect with all the love and understanding you can muster. I suspect that a quiet one-to-one talk may be in order here, just to let him know that you sympathize, but that this is life.

I take it that the large midwest U would not exceed $120K, full freight? If it would, then you have to face the hypocrisy of that decision, and this is something that you won't be able to hide from your son. You'll have to face the consequences of your son's knowledge and how it plays out emotionally.

Also important for you and your family: What's done is done. I always tell my daughter that she can't change the past, only the future. If your son is not happy where he lands, he can always transfer. The better his grades are, the better his chances elsewhere -- as long as those chances don't exceed $120 K.

05-03-2008, 09:00 AM	#34
Momwaitingfornew Super Moderator Join Date: Mar 2006 Threads: 125 Posts: 2,257	Sadmom, I feel for you and your son, but Northstarmom is right: if your son knew what your budget was, he should not be surprised. Of course, that won't keep him from being deeply disappointed. You'll have to deal with that aspect with all the love and understanding you can muster. I suspect that a quiet one-to-one talk may be in order here, just to let him know that you sympathize, but that this is life. I take it that the large midwest U would not exceed $120K, full freight? If it would, then you have to face the hypocrisy of that decision, and this is something that you won't be able to hide from your son. You'll have to face the consequences of your son's knowledge and how it plays out emotionally. Also important for you and your family: What's done is done. I always tell my daughter that she can't change the past, only the future. If your son is not happy where he lands, he can always transfer. The better his grades are, the better his chances elsewhere -- as long as those chances don't exceed $120 K. Last edited by Momwaitingfornew : 05-03-2008 at 09:37 AM.