| "But what doesn't sit right with me in this situation is that he was ALSO told he could attend the school with the good reputation in the midwest which is ALSO expensive without scholarship money and where he is currently wait listed. So, that would be confusing to a kid that on the one hand you can spend more than you told him but only if it is a certain school. "
I agree with soozievt.
At the same time, if he knew this from the time he applied, he did have plenty of time to consider what he could do to fund an expensive school that you weren't willing to pay for. The fact that he doesn't seem to be willing to do this indicates to me that he isn't all that committed to his dream school.
I was committed to my dream school, so much that I worked 60 hours a week during the summer after high school, worked during high school, during summers and the school year in college, and also took out loans to augment what my mom provided. I never regretted doing any of these things. I could have gone to a 2nd tier local college for free, but didn't want to do that, and did everything within my power to make my dreams possible.
The bottom line is that the money is yours, and it's your decision what to do with it. By agreeing to fund $120 k in college education for your S, you already are doing a lot. You don't owe him paying full freight at his dream school. If he believes in his dreams, he owes himself whatever he can do to help fund that dream. If he's not willing to sweat for his dream, why should you? |