| I know this sounds insensitive, but I would go to UW. It saves money, and whether it is yours or his, all of you would be a lot better off with the kind of value UW represents. It is clearly by any means an excellent school.
From own experience as the offspring of an unemployed single mother and an absent and disinterested father, I can tell you what distressed me as a kid. It wasn't so much that my father was not interested in helping out (clearly could have afforded to do so), but rather that he wasn't honest and direct about his unwillingness to do so, and my coming to that conclusion way too late fractured the relationship for many years.
Heck, no matter what the decision is for you here - I would be brutally honest. Yes, the the precedent set with your daughter isn't helpful - your son obviously has expectations of the same - but look at the dollars and cents at the value here - and a UW decision is a principled decision - even if he is not thrilled with it. But above all, gain a consensus with your husband and be honest and direct. Kids get that. |