| Creating a safe environment is a two-way street. The victim, "Kelly" ALSO made an error, and it contributed to John Doe's situation by providing temptation. While most other people wouldn't have imagined raping Kelly, for this student it was a temptation, which I compared to leaving one's purse (or wallet) out on the teacher's desk as an illustrative point. People are hardwired differently, and we have to know ourselves to not violate someone else despite temptations in many other directions.
As a teacher, I initiated that comment, and compared grades to currency, and a woman wearing a blouse to an open cash register with bills hanging out in front of customers in a vacated store.
I'm saying that Kelly would be an even better woman to learn not to be alone with any man and provide such a tempting opportunity. If I were Kelly, I wouldn't only be blaming the student, but would be thinking about how I might revise my blouse-wearing habits to be more careful as well. |