| There are probably four possible scenarios here:
1. Major just not a good fit, once he's taking classes he enjoys he'll be in better shape.
2. Major not great fit but he has poor study habits and not ready for the rigors of college-- in which case next year might also be a struggle.
3. He's more than ready for college but chose not to apply himself; frat, GF, parties, social distractions-- just didn't put in the time or enough effort.
4. He has no idea what went wrong-- his grades were a surprise, he thought he was doing ok but finals were a disaster, etc.
If you can brainstorm with him on which of these it is, we (parents of boys, engineering colleges, too much party/not enough library types) would be more than happy to share with you about what worked and didn't with our kids. But bad grades alone don't help us help you.
My H and I have disliked some of our kids significant others before.... but as judgemental and awful as we are, we would NEVER hold a kids academic status against him as a BF! I might not be clamoring to hire the kid as a summer intern for my company, but it wouldn't change how I felt about him as a BF! So just try to ignore the GF factor for now... unless he fesses up that he's flunking classes because he's majoring in GF at college. |