College Discussion - View Single Post - I need some guidance about the racism I'm encountering in college

spideygirl · 05-18-2008, 02:04 AM

Life is WAY too short! Get outta there! I think it is admirable for you to even contemplate sticking it out. However, despite the fact that your environment clearly needs you, you do NOT need it.

I have NEVER seen the kind of stuff you have had to deal with. On the other hand, I have always lived near major cities on both coasts. I mention this to reinforce the good news that what you are experiencing is not the norm. It will be easy for you to find a better place and to put this behind you.

Regarding having a mom who does not put you first...Ouch - so sorry to hear that! I had a similiar situation (not exactly, but same bottom line). In my 40's I am still trying to figure it out. I was a pretty ambitious kid and had to sort of create my own world (making up for a lack of nurturing?). It took lots of efforting and too much having to be tough, but I ended up with an incredible life and a nature that if I may say so is much more giving than the average person's. I don't think I would have chosen this way to develop compassion and the ability to emotionally connect to people, but I am appreciating the silver lining in my situation.

When you have a family of your own, being present and loving towards your own children will be very healing.

05-18-2008, 02:04 AM	#69
spideygirl Member Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 982	Life is WAY too short! Get outta there! I think it is admirable for you to even contemplate sticking it out. However, despite the fact that your environment clearly needs you, you do NOT need it. I have NEVER seen the kind of stuff you have had to deal with. On the other hand, I have always lived near major cities on both coasts. I mention this to reinforce the good news that what you are experiencing is not the norm. It will be easy for you to find a better place and to put this behind you. Regarding having a mom who does not put you first...Ouch - so sorry to hear that! I had a similiar situation (not exactly, but same bottom line). In my 40's I am still trying to figure it out. I was a pretty ambitious kid and had to sort of create my own world (making up for a lack of nurturing?). It took lots of efforting and too much having to be tough, but I ended up with an incredible life and a nature that if I may say so is much more giving than the average person's. I don't think I would have chosen this way to develop compassion and the ability to emotionally connect to people, but I am appreciating the silver lining in my situation. When you have a family of your own, being present and loving towards your own children will be very healing. Last edited by spideygirl; 05-18-2008 at 02:23 AM.