| i agree with calmom that you shouldn't label yourself too strongly and then isolate yourself. and you shouldn't hold to that attitude, because you'll probably find that the people who you gravitate towards, who feel they are "mature" are actually the very opposite.
i'm from nj too, and i understand the things that you dislike about nj, but you can't hold on to those reasons and simply reject every kid from there, or automatically judge them because they're from your state. you better get used to the fact that you are going to school in NYC. a LOT of kids come from jersey. my roommate is from NJ, my suitmate for next year, and some good friends too. my roommate and i would have gotten along terribly if i automatically judged her because of where she came from. and i think i would have looked rather stupid doing it, as i would have disliked her for something that we have in common. and you have to understand that this isn't like, rutgers, where the kids from jersey sometimes fit that category that you hate. the people from jersey who come here are different, as they chose to come here.
and also, you'll find that the people that you would "normally" stay away from, are actually really cool. i'm friends with a bunch of columbia kids who are loud and fun-loving, sometimes immature, but also have intellectual sides to them. my friends from high school tend to be more "low-key", enjoying art and nature and hanging out with older people and siblings. i didn't think i would be friends in college with the kids i found, but i am and am obviously happy. what i'm saying is that if i had kept a closed mind, rejected opportunities that i may not be familiar with, i wouldn't have those friends.
if you come to school with expectations and goals of finding certain types of people, i promise you that you will miss out of potential friends. |