chuy

ask her what you have to lose if you apply to a couple safeties. Heck, you might be able to get the application fee, if there is one, waived even. Your mom seems to have some huge entitlement complex when it comes to being a URM but thankfully that seems to have skipped you. Theres nothing wrong with applying to some reaches and hopefully you'll get into one, but do whatever you have to, including lying to your parents, to at least apply to a couple safety schools that you'd both like and would be of similar cost to the ones she's pushing you to. Apply to the "acceptable" schools and save the information she gives you that you'll need for the safety schools, then apply to them behind her back.