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Kamaro: your attitude is only going to make things worse for your D. You, as a parent, should put on a happy face and try to encourage your D to look forward to college and the lack of a slob, alcoholic, weirdo, whacko, etc type person as a roommate. Instead, you're laying out the worst for her, telling her she shouldn't have put up with this "crap" from a "state school". Grow up and be an adult. A fourth year in college should not have to tell you this.
EVERYONE on here is telling you that this is NOT the end of the world. Everyone in Hereford is in a single (ok, maybe a handful of doubles, but still) and will WANT to mingle. Your D won't be strapped into one person, having to please them and hang out with them. Instead, she'll have a ton of other people, in the same situation as her, wanting to break out of their shell. UVa spent a year redesigning the bus routes so that she has two, or more, VERY convenient bus routes. And for those times she doesn't want to take the bus, she will be some of the lucky few who LOSE the freshman 15. She'll make tons of friends in her classes and end up sleeping on an air mattress or two in Old or New Dorms. Friends will want to come to her place for the privacy. I know you don't want to hear this, but a potential boyfriend and her might find some quiet time alone. And I'm 110% positive that all of the floor's doors will be wide open and everyone will be in the hallways having fun and enjoying each other's company.
So, PUT A SMILE ON. FOR YOUR OWN DAUGHTER'S SAKE. Make her excited, try to find some goodness in it, and if she still hates it, put in a room change request. Right now, it'll be hard to move. During the first week or two, things will open up (people occasionally just don't show up on Day 1...and eventually, never)
This is your D's college experience. It's supposed to be one of a lifetime. DO NOT make her go into it with such negative feelings, or you will severely regret it, I promise you. If my mother did this to me, I would have moved out. Swear to the cosmic powers. You need to support her and love her in the last full days you have with her. Get it together, for everyone's sake. And if you hate UVA that much, either tell your poor D that she just can't come and go to CC for a year, or shush up and try to see the beauty and exceptional educational and social experience UVa has to offer to your D.
PS- putting Maddoff and UVa in the same sentence is cruel. That man was an economic terrorist. UVa simply doesn't have enough "perfect" housing for everyone.
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