| Having a cold certainly can bring you down! But no, it's absolutely not too late to join clubs. Go check things out that sound even vaguely interesting. I might be wrong, but I think there's a games club, which is basically people just showing up to play board games. I don't know your background or interests, but there are lots of ethnic clubs, political clubs, groups that do community work that ALWAYS need a hand. Can you try a type of dancing you haven't done -- something you don't have to audition for?
Why don't you talk to your RA about what's out there and tell him or her how you're feeling. Part of an RA's job is to try to help first years connect. Are there any older students from your high school or your home town you could ask for advice about how to find your niche? (I think older students like to give advice, to show off how much they know their way around campus.)
Garland's advice is also sound. My son was in the social dorm last year, but on a floor that didn't seem to gel. He found a different floor and kind of became an unofficial member, so much so that people used to push that button for him in the elevator and didn't believe him when he said that wasn't the floor he lived on. (He's also in CC and dating a CC woman, by the way, so don't give up hope about those CC guys).
You are definitely not alone! Friendships don't necessarily happen right away, let alone love life. Even people who look as if they've made friends for life in the first month are likely to have a different set of friends by the end of the year. As far as everyone studying goes, are any of your classes the type that lend themselves to study groups? Those can also become social. I'm sure you'll feel better when you're feeling healthier. Maybe even your classes will pick up. (Another thought -- if you have time on your hands, have you looked into getting a small job on campus. Look on the Lerner site, for example, since working there might give you another way to meet people.) |