Doesn't this depend on the kid? There is no way of knowing what kind of path a young person will end up heading down. IF my D was the type of student who could get into Northwestern to get the best of both worlds - I would be thrilled - but she's just not. And, NOT because she doesn't work hard. She does, and she does well in school, but it doesn't come easily, and she doesn't test well despite trying VERY hard. Her choice regarding BFA vs BA was CCM or Ithaca vs. Muhlenberg. Since what she wants to do is MT, I figure, give her the best shot by going to a top BFA program - for now. Who knows what the future brings. We will support her later if she needs to go for a different degree. And, yes - she is very lucky that we can do that.
I think a lot of this advice comes from people who have been through the ringer in this profession, and who truly understand how hard it is to make a livable wage - even if you are working. And, honestly, if I thought my D might discover a love of neuroscience, or law, or business - I would be much more likely to push for a school where those choices would be an option. But, in her case - I just don't see it. So, for now - my job is to help her make a choice that will provide her with the best training, contacts, and life skills to optimize the slim chance that she can work in her, to date, chosen profession.
It's not ideal, but she is very talented and very driven, and has some hard knock first-hand knowledge of the business. So - we will see!