all of our own children never lie, and they all belong to the "good fraternity" (sorority) that really isn't like all the others, and they've never had more than two drinks at a time, and easy sex? They're all waiting for marriage.
I never said my kids don't drink or are waiting for marriage. I've seen my son's fraternity and I know some of his friends. I know their GPA. I know they were the only frat on his campus that wasn't on probation. I don't think there's anyone on his campus who would have denied that his was the "good" frat.
Life is not black and white. Saying all frats and sororities are the same is like saying all LACs are the same, or all college students... or all republicans or all democrats or all people from a certain region of the country. They're not.
BTW, one does not need to join a Greek organization to drink or sleep around. I live in a part of the country that is loaded with colleges, and the stories of kids binge drinking are by no means confined to colleges that have Greek life. Many of the non-Greek colleges are in urban areas and the generally accepted belief is that many of the kids have fake IDs and drink in bars in the city. Notice I didn't say ALL of the kids, because not all do - but many do.