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shoboemom · 04-28-2012, 11:38 AM

What is your experience with the relation between going away to college and then moving away from family for career?

Just some of the rambling thoughts of a mom starting the 'going to college' journey with her D...

We are in Florida, and now that we are starting to learn about colleges, I'm concerned that my D will consider going to a state school as a sort of consolation prize if we can't afford one of the private schools I think she envisions attending. I know she'd be OK with it, but I see information about some of the private schools, etc, and think that some of them might be such a great fit for her when the time comes.
I know I will encourage her to do what is best for her (and that we can afford), but in the back of my mind I find myself thinking, "What are you doing, encouraging her to move AWAY!? Once she moves out of state, she will find a job out of state and she'll be off and away forever!"
I know I would be thrilled for her if she finds a school and then a career that she loves, but if that takes her away, it will be so sad for me! What if she could have been equally has happy in school closer to home and then more likely to seek a job (where perhaps she'd have been equally happy) closer to home?

04-28-2012, 11:38 AM	#1
shoboemom Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 271	Will 'going' away to college likely lead to 'moving away' for life? What is your experience with the relation between going away to college and then moving away from family for career? Just some of the rambling thoughts of a mom starting the 'going to college' journey with her D... We are in Florida, and now that we are starting to learn about colleges, I'm concerned that my D will consider going to a state school as a sort of consolation prize if we can't afford one of the private schools I think she envisions attending. I know she'd be OK with it, but I see information about some of the private schools, etc, and think that some of them might be such a great fit for her when the time comes. I know I will encourage her to do what is best for her (and that we can afford), but in the back of my mind I find myself thinking, "What are you doing, encouraging her to move AWAY!? Once she moves out of state, she will find a job out of state and she'll be off and away forever!" I know I would be thrilled for her if she finds a school and then a career that she loves, but if that takes her away, it will be so sad for me! What if she could have been equally has happy in school closer to home and then more likely to seek a job (where perhaps she'd have been equally happy) closer to home?
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