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deb922 · 02-14-2007, 08:15 AM

My college freshman is having a hard time second semester. Things are not going well for him, he's having a tough time socially. He made friends on his hall but he has the impression that they are tiring of him and he is tiring of them also.

Not one to believe that my kid is perfect, he is immature, introvertered, sensitive and easily fustrated. We love him, though. He thinks he's shy but he's not really shy but he's not very outgoing. He had great friends in HS, mostly girls and even a girlfriend but they broke up before they went to school and she's moved on. I think that they were great friends but I don't think that she was the love of his life and he didn't seem broken hearted when they broke up.

He wanted to go a techie school and the school he picked is very good in his major. It is very boy heavy, we were concerned with that because he has always had good friends who are girls and doesn't seem to relate to typical boy activities.

Could anyone tell me what I can do to help him? He's a very long way from home and in the dead of winter I don't think that we can fly him home or visit. That is one of the big problems with this school. It's not easy to get to, the weather is bad and getting home before spring break is hard. I've tried to get him to do something outside of the dorms and the friends that he has but he's taking 18 very hard credits and doesn't seem to have any time for much other than studying. Last night he called in tears, it was so hard. I told him to go to the counseling center. He said "great, one more things to fit into my schedule". I've told him that winter is very hard, and that things aren't new anymore and everyone is living on top of each other, of course you get on each others nerves.

I told him he could transfer but to try to find new people to do things with. It's the time of the year to find who to live with next year and he doesn't have anyone to room with and he's stressed about that. He feels that he is invisible and no one is listening to him.

This is so hard and I don't know how to respond. My H, of course, is avoiding this and hands the phone to me.

02-14-2007, 08:15 AM	#1
deb922 Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Threads: 39 Posts: 407	Second Semester Blues My college freshman is having a hard time second semester. Things are not going well for him, he's having a tough time socially. He made friends on his hall but he has the impression that they are tiring of him and he is tiring of them also. Not one to believe that my kid is perfect, he is immature, introvertered, sensitive and easily fustrated. We love him, though. He thinks he's shy but he's not really shy but he's not very outgoing. He had great friends in HS, mostly girls and even a girlfriend but they broke up before they went to school and she's moved on. I think that they were great friends but I don't think that she was the love of his life and he didn't seem broken hearted when they broke up. He wanted to go a techie school and the school he picked is very good in his major. It is very boy heavy, we were concerned with that because he has always had good friends who are girls and doesn't seem to relate to typical boy activities. Could anyone tell me what I can do to help him? He's a very long way from home and in the dead of winter I don't think that we can fly him home or visit. That is one of the big problems with this school. It's not easy to get to, the weather is bad and getting home before spring break is hard. I've tried to get him to do something outside of the dorms and the friends that he has but he's taking 18 very hard credits and doesn't seem to have any time for much other than studying. Last night he called in tears, it was so hard. I told him to go to the counseling center. He said "great, one more things to fit into my schedule". I've told him that winter is very hard, and that things aren't new anymore and everyone is living on top of each other, of course you get on each others nerves. I told him he could transfer but to try to find new people to do things with. It's the time of the year to find who to live with next year and he doesn't have anyone to room with and he's stressed about that. He feels that he is invisible and no one is listening to him. This is so hard and I don't know how to respond. My H, of course, is avoiding this and hands the phone to me.