| deb -- It does sound as if your S might be happier at a college that was less male intensive. I think it's great that he's a guy who is used to having female friends. In the meantime, while there is truth to moms getting the brunt of the miserable phone calls (my D actually called my S his first year and scolded him that he had to call Mom once in a while when he was feeling good, not just when he was feeling miserable), what struck me was your son's feeling that no one likes him. That must be incredibly painful for him to experience and you to hear. I would definitely keep going with the suggestions he visit the counseling center. Suggest he go talk to them about whether or not he should tranfer, or tell him you want to make sure you get your money's worth of services before he leaves this college...whatever it takes. In my S's case, there were issues involving a highly dramatic on and off girlfriend situation, and I suggested he go talk to a male counselor. (Like your husband, mine opts out of these types of things...well, he's an engineer.) He resisted ("it will take weeks to get an appointment", "I don't have time", etc.) But it was useful.
MOWC -- ouch!!! I think you are the one who will need the camping trip in the woods, without cell phone, once you've seen WC safely through this episode. |