| teachers, advisors, school administrators: Why are some of you so darned immature that you choose favourites and even buy into the "popular" thing. IF you do have to pick a fav, why can't it be giving extra time to a kid who just needs some attention to blossom? Why do you have to choose the supposedly "cool" kid? Are you still regretting your crowd in HS. I have seen some truly pathetic and obvious favourites and the adults are well-known in the community for this flaw. From the private school admins who suck up to the money and the one genius kid and neglect others to the cheer coach or the English teacher who neglects non favourites.
Even worse than lavishing praise on favs is the obvious neglect or latent hostility to kids you dislike. Maybe that family has made your life more difficult, maybe you don't click with that kid, but don't you realise your power to affect the dignity and (I hate the cliche, but here goes) self-esteem of teens who can tell you don't like them. Couldn't you be a bit less obvious?? You are the adult you know!!
This applies to publics and privates and all grades from K to high school. I don't care if a teacher has a natural inclination to prefer one child over another, I care that they make that preference known to all!! |