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I've checked in on my d's facebook, and earlier myspace. She's in her 2nd year of college now, 19 years old. I've occasionally "discovered" things about my daughter, which she did not share with us. When she was in high school, 17, we confronted her about something we saw, a party (apparently no parents present) she went to when she'd told us she was sleeping over at a friend's house. Tears were shed, she was cut off from friends for a while... Overall, she's a good kid. Good grades, participates in music, journalism. No behaviour/health problems. No acting out. Probably just typical stuff. I guess... Now it's different. Since she's over 18, and in colloge, I know the partying, etc., is going to happen. All the same, there have been a couple of things where we were misled on, lied to about. I don't really want to confront my d, because I like having the ability to look into her life, she changed her myspace privacy settings after the incident in hs; I'm now able to look at her facebook through an account I set up for myself. But I'm sure she could close that window if she knew I was looking. It's not so much what she's doing that's bothering me, but that she's not letting us know, or outright deceiving us about what's happening. Can one really expect honesty at this age (with regard to these kinds of things, partying, etc.)? I wish we had a closer relationship, where she felt she could be honest about these things. Don't know really what I'm asking.... just wanted to vent a bit. It's frustrating.
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