| Congratulations! I am so glad for your daughter (and her parents). Hopefully, she will be pleased with her audition at IU (and elsewhere) and be able to know that she did her best no matter what the final outcome. I still have to remind S (and myself) that in each failed audition there are factors beyond his control - the superior quality of the other applicants (no matter how well prepared you are and how well you performed, you can always learn from your betters and it may be best to admit that there is something to be learned!), the adjudicators (they may be "correct", but yes, in any individual audition or competition "mistakes" can be & are made, you just hope that these average out over time), and those times that no matter how much you prepared for a good performance the fates just aligned to insure that you were over-tired, becoming ill, etc. I try to help S in understanding that it may be better to look on music training as a process rather than a series of discrete events. If he can take each disappointment as a way to learn and evaluate (did he overestimate his abilities, did he simply have a bad day, etc.) he stands a better chance of meeting his goals in the end. Best wishes to your daughter! |