mayhew

That was a great post F., thank you! Happily, My D has NO IDEA about my concerns, that I am trying to learn everything I can about Ivy and other D1 types of recruiting, my curiosity and obsessive reading of CC threads!!! She goes to a New England Boarding School, so is safe from her mother's fascination with this whole process - much, much better that way! D is a happy, healthy girl and a strong student. I know wherever/however this ends, all will work out for what is the best It is a heady time due to strong interest in her at this time from multiple coaches from colleges that she would love to go to (has visited them all, just on group tour/info sessions), but she has a much better perspective on it all, and a clearer focus, than her mother who has too much free time to obsess!!

fogfog

Hi Mayhew

Your tall experienced crew daughter will have many options--experienced women are in high demand and get great $ because of the Title thing and equality with mens sports.

Nice grades, nice SATs and a nice ERG score will certainly open many doors.

Like you--CC has offered many new insights for this parent ;o) and luckily our student is focused on current school work and life so hopefully when the time comes I will have done due diligence in order to be better companion as our family embarks on the journey too ;o)

fauve

Mayhew- Key words "too much free time to obsess" --even if you are working 70 hours a week, those seconds crawl by, and then there are always the night time hours to awaken with worry.

For those of us who have been through it, we offer a hand, a pat on the shoulder, and a glass of something for comfort and distraction. Glad to hear your DD is safely sequestered at BS, away from mama bear's rumblings.

A note to the above post-- no money given for Ivy athletics, only for demonstrated financial need.

fogfog

"A note to the above post-- no money given for Ivy athletics, only for demonstrated financial need. "

D1s can give $ for athletics to women, right?

mayhew

Fog Fog - What year is your high school student? Just curious if we will be going through this together on the same time line? I agree that like you, I am looking at this as doing "due diligence" - it will be helpful to have a clue if the pace of it all speeds up and decisions need to be made - good to have an idea of how the game is played ahead of time.....! What is your child's sport? Thank you so much too for your positive thoughts about D's options

Regarding D1 $ for girls, it is available for athletic scholarships, just NOT at ivy league schools who are only need oriented - no merit/athletic, unlike many other colleges. Womens crew is a NCAA sport, yet mens crew is not, so I guess that opens up more scholarship $ to girls? I am not really thinking about $ as we are in that frustrating bracket where we would be denied need-based aid, yet would feel the impact of tuition. There are a few Ivies that D really, really would love to go to/row for, so we wouldn't get $ - however, I wonder how us parents would feel if a non-Ivy D1 school started offering $? Hmmm...very tempting!!

Fauve - I really appreciate your experience and perspective - It is very helpful to hear from someone who may have been through it all Definitely good that D is completely unaware of her "mama bear" and mother's musings, hypothetical questions, etc.! D is so much "cooler" than me, and sees it all in a very realistic and straightforward manner - wish I could be more like my 16 year old!! I do love the connections made here in this forum, and really appreciate the sharing of lessons learned.

fauve

Fogfog- As Mayhew notes, Div. I schools that are not Ivy can give athletic money. All Ivy League schools are Div. I, yet they have a league policy of giving no athletic scholarships. The only money given is from the financial aid office, upon proof of financial need. Harvard and Princeton have very generous financial aid initiatives where if a family earns up to 180,000.- with no unusual assets (extra houses, extra real estate, stock portfolios), the student receives some help. For families earning $60,000.- and under, the student receives full aid.

Mayhew- We knew so little while our two DDs went through Ivy recruiting. Somehow, both cycles were successful, to our greenhorn astonishment. I'm delighted to share the hard-won lessons.

fogfog

Hi Mayhew/Fauve/all

A friend of ours just worked through this with a DD--who narrowed the options to 2 ivies and 2 non ivies..she is signing with a non ivy...
Evidently all the letters/offers for students should be in the mail or should have been in mailboxes as of a week ago (according to this parent)
This athlete is a girl/crew...it is quite exciting.