You say the money question is a big time issue...the link below will take you to a list of schools that have a high endowment to student ratio which means they will have the money to help you …look into the schools on this list...If you see something you like call their admissions office introduce your self and get to know someone on the admit staff….
Many schools are looking for students with your qualities’…
I loved Bryn Mawr when my daughter and I were looking at schools, she was admitted but went to Swarthmore instead….I am not so sure I would have…..
http://ir.wlu.edu/factbook/alumni/endoperstudent.htm
good luck and write if you have questions you think I can help with