racmom - my D loved the school on paper (curriculum, faculty reputation, facilities, and the emphasis on equal balance between acting/singing/dancing); then we visited the campus and she felt that it was not the right fit for her after all. What prompted that? Quite frankly I have no clue how to actually put it in words, other than it felt too quiet, cold and isolated to her, and that no one seemed particularly happy. I do know that when she received her rejection letter, it was as if she had received random marketing material, as it mattered little, and confirmed that they did not see her as the right fit either.
At times, it is very, very difficult to put your finger on "what exactly feels right", but I have found that I learned a lot about the differences (and where she feels at home and thinks she can thrive) between my D and I in the process

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