Parents of the HS Class of 2012 - Original - Page 1485

MizzBee · 04-29-2012, 11:37 AM

Mspearl-if you need anything, seriously, let me know. I missed the post, but I like everyone else here really care about you. Come back when you can and don't be afraid to reach out.

woody35 · 04-29-2012, 11:38 AM

CPU - local rock star! When you're away at Harvard, everyone in town will bug your mom for tips on how to help get their kids into Harvard too. She needs to start working on her stock answers for that.

pathways · 04-29-2012, 11:44 AM

MSpearl, didn't see your post, but glad you were able to reach out in anyway you could. It's a start. We all need help sometimes, and there is no shame in asking those around you or professionals for support. Peace.

momsings · 04-29-2012, 11:51 AM

Wow, all this information about immunizations is so helpful. Other things, I figure need looking at is health insurance (does our policy cover whatever S might need outside of the school health center?) and banking close to the school (don't want to pay fees)...

mspearl--for whatever you are going through, you have the concern and love from all here--you are such a beacon of light. Our hearts are all going out to you.

mom0809 · 04-29-2012, 12:21 PM

mspearl: Deep concern and many prayers for you from my little part of the world. You're such a bright spark around here, and we miss you and want everything to be right with you once again.

kathieh1 · 04-29-2012, 12:29 PM

Also missed the post and hope she comes back soon and lets us know how we can help.. but no matter what the problem is, her friends here will be understanding and only want the best for her and her family. Find a friend to talk to or a professional and remember you are not alone. Think about what kind of friend you'd be if a friend was going through something really hard.. and then remember you have friends here and elsewhere that will be just as kind to you. Never alone and it will get better.

YaleGradandDad · 04-29-2012, 12:40 PM

Thinking about immunizations, I am finding that my BC/BS policy is being difficult processing out of state and out of network claims for my kid. Student health has little motivation to cooperate since they just put the full billed charge on the bursar bill and I have to fight for some reimbursement.

Parents should seriously look into having their college aged kids sign medical powers of attorney over to them. Otherwise, if your unconscious kid is admitted to a hospital across the country, the doctors may not (and should not) discuss their care with you since DS/DD is legal adult and they can't violate patient privacy laws.

eyemamom · 04-29-2012, 12:47 PM

Great point about a POA. Last year I was out of the country when my daughter was thrown from her horse at camp and taken to the ER and I was reminded of why they have us sign those releases!

I will ask my attorney if we need him to draw it up or just get one off legal zoom. If he gives me one I'm happy to share with all of you.

Got S' tux yesterday - he should look very sharp - red vest and tie under the tux. The unhappy part will be the haircut on Tuesday. Remember when you'd take your squirmy 3 yo for a haircut? He never outgrew that.

Thinking of you mspearl - I sent you a pm of my favorite psalm that helps me calm down during turbulent times. I hope it can give you some comfort.

notakid · 04-29-2012, 12:55 PM

Glido, congrats to your daughter on the Wellesley decision. My daughter came down to there or Barnard and went with the NYC school, but I don't think I have ever faced a decision where so much had to be given up by not choosing one of the options.

connections · 04-29-2012, 12:55 PM

I've decided to change my name--"hoveringmom" is not me anymore. I originally posted as it as a way to make fun of myself because going into the process a second time, I was super-anxious, as my oldest son had a very negative experience. But though I do indeed hover from time to time like most people - why else are we posting?? - I've officially changed my name to 'connections,' as I've made a whole lot of them lately, both in life, on this site, and in my heart and mind!

amtc, good luck to your D on deciding. I wish I could help but I know nothing of these two schools. She does have a point about taking so many classes off site. And I too live in NJ and my D is going to NU--one of the dealbreakers was that we found Southwest tickets for a very reasonable price :-) Also, you can conceivably, if you're a driving maniac, hop in the car and drive 13 hours to get there in one day. Great, fabulous tip about making reservations for a room now. Didn't think of that at all.

My own D took a year off before applying (she's 19). Prom and all that craziness was last year (although I have to brag that she got a FABULOUS prom dress from a thrift store for....$19.00!!! It was cream and pink silk with handsewn beads, sort of retro from the 1930s or so. Awesome coup, right?)

While I'm thinking about it, to anyone who is contemplating a gap year, or who will be entering a gap year, I have to say that it was very successful for both my daughters. They didn't do anything special--they merely worked about 30 hours a week. This D worked at a local diner as hostess and as a childcare worker. She was also in a community theatre play. That's really it. She used her gap year as a way to gain responsibility and maturity - being a hostess at a diner can be tough - and to have the time to take a breather and think about her options. So this is just to give support to those who take the gap year--it can definitely be a good thing, if it's right for your child.

MizzBee · 04-29-2012, 01:04 PM

Congrats glido!!!!
I really like the new name, Connections!

performersmom · 04-29-2012, 01:20 PM

connections- I am getting and seeing a lot of questions about Gap Years at this point. I would like to offer help to others in deciding whether it makes sense, and what to do, and how to finance or share expenses with the student.
I cannot find a forum dedicated to Gap Years on CC... sigh
And who knows... my own D might suddenly express an interest, as I know she is both burnt out AND very excited about heading off to college. SMILE

(I, too, am a big believer in the CONCEPT of taking such a "break", i.e. is broadening and in the real world, as it can really re-charge the batteries, and also make college a more meaningful experience.)

My sense is that most of the competitive app programs' deadlines to apply are just passing now...

What did your D do, and how did she decide, and then organize it? Any tips????

p.s. mspearl, so sorry to hear you are in pain. If talking about it will help, we are here for that. But we are behind you no matter what. Come back when you feel ready or need something.

nly2012 · 04-29-2012, 01:23 PM

5boys, MizzBee, Leavesofgrass,
Thanks a bunch for quick info on gap year. We're still talking here. S is thinking that he can work and save up some money. Is expecting to join the Peace Corps after college and says he doesn't want to be penniless after he gets out. But that is a long way off, and I think maybe there is more to it....but I don't know. We will see how the day unfolds. Now at least I know how to advise him to proceed if he wants to pursue this.
Thanks again!!

familyof3boys · 04-29-2012, 01:25 PM

Just searched for Gap on CC and found lots of threads. Here's one:
Gap Year--The Most Wonderful!! Gift, If You Can Swing It, For Your Kid

MommyMommy - Thought of you today while watching CBS Sunday Morning. There was a story about the astronomical rise in college costs, and guess what school they focussed on?
http://www.cbsnews.com/video/watch/?...in;contentBody

dwhite · 04-29-2012, 01:33 PM

Mspearl - my thoughts are with you and your family. I also missed the post but please know we are all thinking of you, and hoping you have a support group or someone to talk to and to help you at this time. As everyone else has said, we are all here for you and will offer any support we can.