Parents of the HS Class of 2009 - Page 1830

Modadunn · 09-24-2012, 10:45 AM

I watched the emmys and then ended up staying up until far too late to watch Game Change on HBO via online xfinity (I have HBO at home, but not on the cable system here). It literally gave me nightmares and is pretty telling why the woman still doesn't do off the cuff interviews.

While not getting into politics, I find the entire republican party a little disappointing and cannot for the life of me figure out why neither one of these guys (Romney or McCain) didn't tap Pawlenty - very good looking, successful moderate conservative, and worked successfully with both sides of the aisle. I just don't get how it ever becomes a good idea to not work with others.

KMC - that sounds pretty miserable. I had an infection last year just around my birthday. Started off with a sensitive molar and ended up waking up with an entirely swollen side of my face, up to my eye and down to my neck. And yes, I could literally feel my face morphing. i got on antibiotics on the Monday morning and so no lancing, but now I floss like it's an obsession. Love those little tiny bristle things.

Finally had a conversation with younger D. She did not rush with the other freshman, and while she didn't say she wanted to rush, she does feel like she missed out on the fun this past week. Unfortunately, she was under the impression that you had to pay to even rush vs paying once you get a bid. She is the type that has all the answers without asking the questions. She sometimes ends up missing the boat because of it, like now. She doesn't make friends super easily, so I am looking forward to seeing her in a few weeks to see for myself if all is as well as she says it is. Unlike her siblings, she is not easily read in person let alone over the phone.

NorthMinnesota · 09-24-2012, 10:53 AM

So much news from all of you!

Have been to the lake and now back home to catch up on laundry, grocery shopping and packing for my ladies scrapping weekend up North. I leave Thursday morning and I am not organized. The leaves are beautiful but the lake level was as low as I have ever seen in 21 years. Met with the contractor and all of the subs on Friday. Bids will be in in about two weeks. I asked for the moon and then will whittle things down to meet my budget.

Moda...such big decisions and life steps! Good Luck!

kmc...sending good health prayers/wishes for you! Ouch!

No more news re the death of friend's wife in boating accident in the Mediterranean. She apparently fell off the sailboat while docked and no one heard her. She had come up from below to make a call to her daughter and when she didn't return our friend went to find her. She did not know how to swim. Very sad.

Bandie Mom · 09-24-2012, 11:07 PM

KMC, I've had plenty of dental work and still don't like it. My new dentist is a great lady and has a fantastic staff that works with my fears and apprehension about being in the chair. I have also become pretty obsessive with the flossing. It pays.

My absence has been self induced. I was spending way too much time on the computer so decided to cut down during the summer.

I'm seeing my doc tomorrow. Have a torn meniscus and he will tell me if we go to surgery from here. Already had the "nice" shot of cortisone. It did help with the swelling and the pain, but I still don't feel comfortable and I will move without thinking about what I'm doing and the knee will quickly remind me not to move like that.

FallGirl · 09-25-2012, 07:26 AM

Feel better, bandie mom.

missypie · 09-25-2012, 07:41 AM

Yesterday afternoon I was giving a lot of thought to the concept of message boards such as this one, when it goes past college advice and gets into our personal lives. Are any of you following the advanced cancer thread? I checked in yesterday and learned that the mom who is posting is in great pain, that pain killers can't even take the edge off of, from recent surgery.

The thought of that just haunts me. I am so concerned for someone whose name I don't know, not even a Facebook friend. I hope she gets comfort from the support she finds here. I pray that she is getting just as much support and more IRL...however, I could see me reaching out in a similar circumstance (although I doubt that I would post with such serenity)...A person can be stoic IRL, revealing the pain to virtual friends. So I guess that I come down that message boards enrich our lives, so long as we aren't ignoring our neighbor who is going through something similar right next door.

eddieodessa · 09-25-2012, 08:22 AM

Good morning everyone. Yes, I frequently check in on that thread to see how she is doing. Did you "know" Latetoschool a few years ago? I still think of her when I see red high heels.

missypie · 09-25-2012, 10:06 AM

Eddie, by the time I was on cc with any frequency, Latetoschool was pretty far along her journey and it didn't feel right to join in near the end.

NorthMinnesota · 09-25-2012, 10:36 AM

I follow the thread sometimes. It is a reminder to me to stay up with my friend who is fighting breast cancer. My friend is now battling an infection in her right breast where she had her radiation and they had to remove her implant. Reconstruction is now off for a few more months. My other friend is now back in the USA after the death of his wife in Greece. So sad.

D2 reports senior year is rolling by. She has a business operations class that she doesn't love and that relies a lot on group projects. Per usual she is the one who wants to be in control and ends up doing other people's part. H tells her she will be a good supervisor but that isn't what she wants to hear.

oregon101 · 09-25-2012, 01:19 PM

H and I traveled north to visit with S and DIL and Baby. We met, had lunch and then all went up to a small city and stayed in a gorgeous hotel on the Sound one night. We arranged a suite for them for more space. Baby is crawling and nearly walking and not yet 7 months old. Clearly thriving. Overall it went very well. I only put my foot in my mouth once in 48 hours, which is amazing!
DIL and I now have some funny stories to remember which is nice. S actually asked a question. This was truly a change. He is a very quiet and not very curious guy.

The oddest part of the visit was when DIL told us her mother had invited us for dinner the next night. I "knew" this was going to get interesting. Next day we are told that we "can come for a drink or come for dinner", we should decided. HUH? This went on a few passes through the DIL. I made up my mind I was staying out of it. H finally told S we were the guests and the host should let us know what the invitiation actually was for...
So it turns out they were going to a game and would only have time for drink unless we wanted to wait until 9 to eat. We arrived to visit for 50 minutes and were served one small glass of wine. She poured some from one to the other to even them out and did not open a new bottle (big wine frig a foot away). We were there 2 hours and that was the total of our food/drink. How can someone do that? It was/is just weird to me.
In all the visit with them was fine. Just such odd behavior.

There is a new house going in soon and it will completely wreck our view. I am trying not to stress but know I am going to be quite upset soon.

Congrats to all whose kid is back in school for the year. DIL did begin yesterday and S will return Winter quarter.

kmcmom13 · 09-25-2012, 01:49 PM

Hi all. Thanks for the well wishes and commiserating comments. I look a little less like a crazed hoarding squirrel and maybe more like a relaxed chipmunk now... I also have a date tomorrow with an oral surgeon. Sigh. (Meaning I am destined for some more imminent facial swelling, I suspect...)

BandieMom, good luck with that knee. My understanding is that the meniscus can be a bit nasty when it's not happy! (I may resemble that remark.)

Oregon, it's good to hear your gd is doing well, since that's the most important stuff. But I'm not planning on nominating your outlaws for hostess of the year, just so you know. But hopefully your DIL is made of different stuff...or at least trainable

Missy, I often think about these things too. Sometimes I think I've told my (distant) girlfriends things, then realize those were things I shared on THIS thread, but did not remember to tell them, due to currency, events overtaken, etc. The difference is that this thread is accessible during odd hours when I have a moment to reflect or "converse" while said distant friends require a separate, unique, and hopefully cogent communique. So they don't always get the 'kmcmom-does-Andy-Rooney" stuff...

I harass my one sister about her online dating, telling her that it's really just "psuedo-relating" until it morphs to real...but that's not exactly true. (Well, actually, in her case, it IS true, but that has to do more with what she's projecting and what she perceives and the weight she puts on things...)

It's just a different reality, one not populated by the often distracting demands of time/place/physical reality per se.

And I don't know if I mentioned it before, but you CAN really grasp the essence of someone online if their communication is authentic and they are reasonably articulate. My h. and I actually "got to know" each other online -- not from a traditional dating site per se, but from a like-interest bulletin board -- and that's how we met. And it turned out that we were just as compatible IRL as we were online

NorthMinnesota · 09-25-2012, 02:32 PM

oregon...Sending you a great glass of wine! Cheers!

I am an obsessive hostess and have to have snacks and drinks always ready. Glad you had a good visit with S and the family!

Bandie...ugh...meniscus pain! I tore mine a few years ago, had surgery and still have pain. My goal last year was to be able to walk in heels at D1's wedding. I made it but it is still painful. sigh... Hope you have a better result!

eddieo...how is the new job progressing?

missypie · 09-25-2012, 02:55 PM

Well, I'm far from an obsesive hostess - I'm not good at all when people just drop by. But if I had invited someone, there would certainly have been plenty of food and drink offered!

kmc, we have been to several weddings where the couple met through an online dating service. I can't imagine that their divorce rate will be any worse than that of any other group.

I may have told this story before - if so, forgive me. People we know were openly upset at the appearance of the girl that their very attractive son married. She really does look like Miss Piggy, but not as attractive or stylish. The thing is, they met and fell in love online. By the time he saw her, he was in love with her. Of course, that should be the sweetest story in the world.

woody · 09-25-2012, 03:04 PM

^^Awww...

oregon - I can't believe your granddaughter is already 7 months old. Goodness!

I went to a wedding recently and the father of the bride made a toast to match.com.

oregon101 · 09-25-2012, 03:08 PM

D is dating a H.S. friend and may marry him. They ran in the same theater group but never dated. His mom and I "fixed" them up two years ago and they are going strong. BF's dad said to stay out of it but we just smiled and nodded. Nice thing is we are friends with the possible in-laws so all is good.
mp--Are they upset about her potential health problems? How they met? or just her physical appearance?
My mother had been widowed for 10 years and met her second husband through a computer program in 1969! Filled out paperwork and sent it somewhere.

missypie · 09-25-2012, 04:02 PM

Oregon, they were initially shocked by her appearance. Of course, the parents are not exactly models themselves, but their son is quite handsome. The couple really does seem like some sort of sit-com match up....he is quiet and passive and she is large and loud and assertive (which didn't score her points with the parents either.) I don't think the parents are rude to her, and once the grandchild was born, there were some points scored.

I think that we've grown used to seeing beautiful women with guys who are not physically attractive, but face it - you don't see it much going the other direction. I also think that we make judgments based on external appearance of which we are not even conscious. I guess if you're picking a prom date and want to go with the person who will look the best in the photographs, that's not the end of the world. But to choose a spouse for life - knowing we will age and change - it would be so nice to be totally liberated from outward appearances.