Parents of the HS Class of 2009 - Page 1878

missypie · 11-13-2012, 12:42 PM

Yay! And the adjuster even thanked you? Terrific!

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What she doesn't like is drama from co-workers, and people who manufacture crises for her that could have easily been avoided if they hadn't procrastinated.

She should never be a lawyer in private practice. It's my life - I get a letter of intent that was signed a month ago attached to an email saying that they need the document by tomorrow at the latest. Or the lawyer on the other side waits three months to review a document, then calls to bug me the next day to find out when I'll have the revisions back.

sabaray · 11-13-2012, 02:04 PM

TheAnalyst, I really like your juggling analogy and that's been D's philosophy for as long as I can recall. She seems to enjoy having what I consider an unreasonably heavy workload (both academic and extracurricular) and staying very, very busy with it. While she definitely has perfectionist tendencies, for the most part they are directed toward what I would also consider important - i.e., quality work product. The reality is that she is too busy with too many things to focus extensively on perfection; it just isn't a realistic possibility. Just in time and just enough to be successful seems to be working.

Moda, is your D going to be continuing in a field that will require additional math? I spent a lot of time D's first year telling her all she had to do was pass. Physics? Just pass. That said, ModaD should follow NMN's advice and get to the tutoring/professor asap (IMHO).

FallGirl, I too am curious about the surgery. Hoping you get the results you are looking for.

NorthMinnesota · 11-13-2012, 02:19 PM

Moda...the tutoring center at D2's school is nice in that they keep that prof's notes/testing style on file. D2 had an A in her class but was afraid she would miss something due to the heavy accent ( See that perfectionist thing there!). The tutoring staff (both profs and students) bent over backwards to help. She has found that when she does go in to talk to a prof...which is very hard for her to do...the profs have usually dropped a few hints on what to expect for upcoming tests. Definitely worthwhile!

NorthMinnesota · 11-13-2012, 03:31 PM

I have been analyzing this since Saturday night. Both girls were home this weekend with their significant others. We had a great time. D2's BF told us his parents were on a weekend get away and then proceeded to say his grandparents were staying at the house to watch over things. Hmmm...he will be 21 in a few days but he does have younger siblings. (20, 16 and a middle school brother...not sure of his age). At 10 pm he gets a text from his mom saying they are back home and could he come home as they couldn't sleep until he got home. BF was not happy. This kid does not drink, works very hard so he can afford school since they don't pay anything, and for the 3 years that he has dated D2 they have never ever been up past 11. Seriously...
I was surprised that his mom did this. I teased him that his parents wouldn't know he was out late if he was living on campus. He laughed but I could tell it hit a little too close. It bothered me because it led to another discussion concerning the value of a college education. In his experience he has started and runs his own small business. He takes classes and lives at home. Definitely burning the candle at both ends. What made me sad was to hear him say he wanted to just be done with classes and work as he didn't see the value in his classes. That was the wrong button to push for me. Anyway his grades have fallen and he said he didn't care what they were as long as he got a degree. I told him it would come back to haunt him. sigh... He laughed and said he would maintain a 3.0 for me. My frustration is with his family. I just don't understand them. Both have education degrees. The mom is still a teacher but the dad is in business. I feel bad because his college experience changes D2's experience. I really must be an education snob!

TheAnalyst · 11-13-2012, 04:08 PM

NM, is he graduating this spring or does he have another year to go? If he is getting out in May and will be moving away from home at that time, my advice would be to just encourage him that this too shall pass. To tell you the truth, I don't sleep well when the kids are home but aren't home, if you know what I mean. I don't give them a curfew but it's hard for me when they come home because I am a zombie from a lack of sleep. S2 is not a night owl, so not so bad but S1 seriously confuses the moon and the sun.

Speaking of S1, the work visa saga continues. They have asked for all of the source materials from scratch as if it's a first time application. The good news is the visa will then be good for eight years. The bad news is there is no way I can get all his docs through the legalization process here by mid-December when the current visa expires. There is a lawyer handling everything on his end (lucky him) and he said he would get back to me on whether there is some work around like maybe using the docs they already have after all. In other news, they gave him an offer he couldn't refuse so he is going back to Australia after Christmas and will work there for the next year. He is loving it, so not a big hardship other than the gf issue. Not yet clear on how that will evolve.

Modadunn · 11-13-2012, 08:42 PM

I have looked up tutoring and apparently you have to be enrolled in a special program to get tutoring?? I am a little confused to be honest. I think maybe CFang will be helpful to explain it? As it is now, I can only find a writing center. And this is what I will say about this... S's school - so competitive to get in to - has so many academic resources for students it's almost ridiculous especially when you look at the scores etc they all had to earn to even be in the running!! I've asked her if she saw the prof or if there is a math resource center (at least), so we'll see.

OK.. I am SO over this house. Today the painter came and we went down to the basement to see what I had left from the kitchen to get the color to do the back hall a shade lighter... etc etc. They were sitting on this box and the whole bottom of the box is wet! The storage room is not finished and there is plastic covering the insulation. Insulation wet. Cement block walll behind it.. wet. It's just one small section and this issue is likely from a need for a gutter off the corner to divert the water from the house, but I need someone to come in and really assess the situation and NOT with the agenda to rip me off. Who does one call in this situation? I don't have a general contractor guy and while I have a handyman, I just don't think his skills are in this realm (that I could trust).

I SO want to sell this house. I am so done with the size, the time and the money I keep putting in a place that every decision/fix/update has the phrase "in order to sell." UGH! There is no upside to being in a holding pattern.

Modadunn · 11-13-2012, 08:57 PM

And oh... my mother's numbers went sky high after going off Tomoxin (tomoxifin?) not sure... so she went back today for a scan. But it so doesn't look good. With both the older kids graduating this spring and the wedding.... I honestly don't know how I am going to muddle through all the muddle around the bend. My H is just not good at this stuff... house crap or emotional crap.

shawbridge · 11-13-2012, 10:28 PM

Moda, I would hire a private tutor. A grad student or a kid who has taken the course and done well.

I've forgotten. Is it an LAC or a university? If university, I would consider going to the department office and asking if the secretary knows someone who could tutor.

Also, perhaps Khan Academy could be of real help.

arabrab · 11-14-2012, 01:03 AM

Moda -- I'm sorry about your mom's numbers rising. More stress indeed.

college_query · 11-14-2012, 06:54 AM

Modadunn, sorry for all the stress. When S (in HS) was struggling with Honors Algebra 2, I talked to a good friend who is a math professor to get recommendations of a math tutor. Found a very smart, very cute college girl who was just right the person to motivate S!

Shawbridge, congrats on the outcome!

Gearing up to panic mode here . . . leave tomorrow for Boston and trying to wrap up everything that needs to get done. Our HS musical is this weekend, which I will miss. I talked to the director last week and he suggested I attend last night's dress rehearsal. The girl playing the lead (Elle Woods) has been in shows with S since elementary school and she is terrific, which is good, since most of the show revolves around her character. Last year director chose Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat because he had so many strong guys, and most graduated. Last night one particular lead male role was painful at times. Occasionally he was right on key and sounded great, but most of the time he was off key. Hope he does better in the performances!

Glad I got to go. Now just need to get things in good shape at work today!

kmcmom13 · 11-14-2012, 06:58 AM

Hang in there, Moda, the mojo is en route. I'm sorry things don't look good for your mom, but perhaps she'll rally yet.
The cheapest, easiest way to address the wet wall is to first fix the gutter and see if that makes the difference before getting basement water proofers in. 90 percent of the time, that's the problem, but of course, to basement waterproofing guys, everything looks like a nail if you carry a hammer

My poor idiot x-husband was $10,000 into a dig-up-waterproofing job when I'd noticed an eavestrough had come down and was never replaced. At the time, he was selling the house to move north, and had lived in the house 10 years without me. I guarantee you (I was the one who'd bought that house) if he'd just fixed the eavestrough he'd have been golden

You could practically draw a vertical line from the missing section of gutter to the location of the wetness in the basement. But that's his style, overlook the minor repairs that he could have managed himself and then whine about the major unnecessary
repair that someone else has convinced him he needs! Funny from a distance but not so much up close.

Fall Girl, how are you doing?

NM, at least said bf is sticking it out, (school, i mean) which kinda sounds like a miracle under the circumstances. I suppose if I were your D, however, the behavior of the prospective MIL might give me pause. I can't quite get my head around asking an adult child to come home at ten pm while he's out on a date. Makes me wonder if that whole "no money to go away to school thing" was just a trumped up bid for control. Hopefully he gets out from under that nonsense soon.

missypie · 11-14-2012, 07:02 AM

Moda, so sorry about your mom. And your house. And the Calc...Son's LAC was like that....no academic supports unless you were on academic probation. So a 2.3 you're on your own, a 2.0 you get tutors.

Crazy busy here, too. Two friend's dads passed away on Sunday, both services today. I can only go to one because I already set up a birthday luncheon for a co-worker. Then there is actual work.

FallGirl · 11-14-2012, 08:05 AM

Moda, I'm sorry to hear about your mom. Hugs to you, you have a lot to deal with.

I would be nervous about Friday's surgery, but no time. Crazy busy at work, have to attend a school function tonight, our smoke alarms keep going off randomly (no smoke/fire thankfully), S is having a meltdown over Physics, H is upset w/ S over meltdown, H flew out of town this AM...

downtoearth · 11-14-2012, 10:13 AM

Fall girl best wishes for your friday surgery.
Moda why did they take her off tamoxifen? Athough I didnt know they used this for ovarian.
yay Shaw son
I know am missing something,
am on steroids, finished the z pack think I am breathing better, crossing fingers

shawbridge · 11-14-2012, 10:24 AM

Best of luck to DTE in getting healthy, FallGirl with surgery, and Moda with M and D.

We're starting construction tomorrow.