hardworker

Aww you guys. I feel for you. Really, I do. It's hard being Indian. Our parents have so many expectations, but you have to show them you're old enough to figure out things like this...point to successful examples maybe in your extended family or friend circle.

Batman11

I'm having slightly similar probs. The girl that I like & I are both 2nd gen. Indians, but her parents are totally opposed to her dating. They haven't met me, but it seems that they can't even handle the concept of her having a 'boyfriend'. I don't want to do anything behind their backs, because I totally agree with what Viash88 wrote 'in my experience you will get caught eventually. And when you are caught, its so much worse if its all hidden…'
It's just so frustrating to like someone & have them like you; but not be able to see them freely because of all these outside influences!

sofie

ahhh so restricting being an Asian.
Cant dye your hair because "what will aunty think?"
Cant have more than two piercings because "what will aunty think?"
Cant hang out with too many kids of the opposite sex because "what will all of damn india think?"

IMHO, desis are too obsessed with trying to get their kids married....and food.

snowy435

lol. my parents are constantly restricting me on everything. they panic if i even have guy friends.lol. i went through hell last year when I liked this guy and realized i could do absolutely nothing about it.

flutterfly_28

i just read the original post and i know exactly what you're talking about.. indian mom gossip circles are vicious.

i'm dating a white guy now (in college) and my parents seem to like it a lot better than the indian guys in high school. i was surprised haha.

snowy435

hahahahaha. yeahhhh. the indian mom gossip cricile is veryyy vicious. It's always about "my daughter or son or your daughter/son" lol. it's hilarous. and quite annoying.

snowy435

and...you have to pay attention to all the aunties sneaking around to 'get you'