InquilineKea

by googling your Internet name, going through your webpages and blogs, and searching through your old CC posts, then...

Would you feel threatened or flattered?

And just to look for patterns:

What is your...

Age:
Gender:
Does this answer depend on whether the stalker is significantly older/younger than you or not? (clearly, a 45 year old stalker is different from a 13 year old stalker - the 13 year old stalker might be trying to find someone with academic direction, which is less likely to be true for the 45 year old). Would it depend on the gender of the stalker or not?
Do you feel socially isolated?

InquilineKea

I'll start with myself:

- yes, I would feel flattered (in most cases), irrespective of age or gender (I would be most flattered if a professor stalked me). It would be different if I knew the person to dislike me (and if I thought the person's attitude towards me would not be likely to change).

But it does depend - there are those with potential to dislike me, and it's hard trying to keep those people away from my blogs/forum posts while simultaneously trying to attract potential friends.

Most of my closest friends have stalked me some time or another anyhow (though probably not to the depth of reading my blog posts all the way to 2003)

Age: 16-18 (somewhere in that range)
Gender: male
- and yes, I am socially isolated (though maybe I'd retain my answers even if I weren't)

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It might depend on the extent of the stalking though (some stalkers are really bad - I just don't see most people who would stalk me as bad, so i wouldn't worry if i noticed such a thing. usually stalking is bad when it comes to dominate the person's life and the person goes to the extent of wanting to meet you IRL)

kritamait

Don't really answer the topic but how do you know you are being stalked?

phiur

sorry for going a little off topic... but is there any way you can find out if and who is stalking you?

InquilineKea

Xanga footprints or other blog feeds (a massive spike in blog visiting activity for example).

Usually, those are the only ways to know if you don't know the stalker.

an easy way to figure out is simply to create a new blog/website with your internet name. (but that blog/website must have a visitor tracker). Xanga is probably best for that (as it tends to show the URL of the referrals - and it displays the state of the person). Websites with IP tracking kind of work (but I don't know any that show "referral URL")

Sometimes, the stalker might make off-hand comments (but those cases are usually rare).

When you know who the stalker is though (and when there is some degree of trust) - the stalker will often tell you that they did it (this usually comes with mutual trust - a few people did tell me that they googled my internet name and used the google cache on my old blogs - and they perceived that I wouldn't mind that. )

fizix2

They pour out their hearts to you in a six-page long email.
Tastes a bit like pudding.

InquilineKea

^^lololololol

hmm, *wonders if there is any hidden meaning behind pudding*

edit: hm, after looking at a CC post about a stalker, i know that online stalking is extremely innocuous compared with RL stalking

InquilineKea

lmao
Internet stalking - Encyclopedia Dramatica
Wikistalking - Encyclopedia Dramatica

snoopyiscool

They wouldn't, because I have different internet names. So ha.

aporl

Lots of predators on the internet. Everyone should be careful, as you could be the victim of anything from a sexul assualt to identity theft.

rockermcr

I wouldn't want to be the victim of sexul assualt.

chrysalis19

snoopyiscool has an old xanga with her pic on it! BTW if someone really really wants to know stuff about you, they could probably find a lot unless you've isolated yourself from the internet never using the same sn twice or even mentioning name or addresses (like me).

FellowCCViewer

where is this picture you speak of? lol

i think i stalk ppl to get to know more about that person before i add/talk to that person. sometimes.

NotAmbidextrous

I'm okay with girls stalking me....although I've never actually been stalked before...so I wouldn't know how I would react ...

chrysalis19

trust me you don't want a semi-attractive girl showing up out of nowhere at the end of your classes or downright ugly ones who give you letters asking you to hang out. The attention is nice for a while but then it turns downright creepy. And I don't know how conservative Egypt is but the last time I was there I wouldn't expect the girls to stalk guys (may be a different story now.)