JacquiC

Just to reiterate, I'm not looking for sympathy, peoples opinions on if they would date me, or anything else like that.

Furthermore - I've never understood this, but some fitter people, specifically in my experiences, men, always shoot down other people that are trying to lose wieght under the guise of "telling it like it is". Like making fun of fat or obese people while they are running, training, really making an effort to live better. Sure, we aren't always going to do everything perfectly and lose weight like they think we should, we aren't going to do the proper amount/rigerousness of exercise perfectly, not going to eat perfectly, because most of the time it's a lack of knowledge about how to go about living healthier. There are so many myths abound regarding the best way to lose weight, and it's honestly tough to sift through everything to find what works and what doesnt. Obviously real credible information is available but really, everyone starts out somewhere. It's a start, and thats an important and scary step for someone who already has to deal with the stigma of being fat everyday even when they have lost weight and are continuing to do so. If you've lost weight, seriously good for you and it's really cool to hear from someone who overcame what I'm struggling with, but how about a little understanding and sensitivity, not completely belittling and dismissing my struggle. It doesn't have to be, "omg no don't worry about it, fat people are just like everyone else", because that in all it's well meaning glory, helps no one, but have a heart.

3365

being fat is never good unless you are a bear and in need of hibernation. trust me, losing all that weight will make you feel more confident and have higher self-esteem.

AJH2008

I'm overweight, had some major surgeries, and gained weight, and im just to big of a lazy ass to get up and do anything about it. I've never hated myself though.

High school was rough, i don't think it'll be the same thing in college though.

3365

its still better to be fit...

BronxBombers7

the best advice i can give is that if you don't let your weight define who you are, others won't either.

ElderCookies

Let me be blunt here. You are judged by how you look as a girl. I rat every girl I see including those in college. I pre judge people by their looks, and so do a very large amount of people in the world. You asked for sympathy in your post above. You will never get it from me or the large majority of people. Get over it and lose the weight if you can. I am not trying to be mean; I am trying to help you see losing weight is the ticket to a better life. My life is so much better now that I am thin.

After losing weight I got mg first girl friend. After losing weight everyone at my school was nice to me. After I lost weight girls at parties hit on me. After I lost weight I was able to go hiking with my family. After I lost weight I was able to eat in public without shame. I can not begin to tell you how it changed my life.



Screw this diet/exercise routine you are doing. 10 pounds is just mediocrity. 10 pounds is the Tulane of weight loss. In order to lose weight for real cut your calories to 1000 a day like I did. Then start out by running 1 mile a day. After 2 weeks up it to 2 miles. Then after 2 more weeks three miles. Keep running and dieting until you are thin.

siglio21

OP has a *****ing disease...it's hard for her to lose weight...get over it

she is looking for a school that is tolerant of fat people

sax

finally someone gets it...and a guy poster,too. Thank you siglio21.

Seriously OP, I hope you tak to your Dr. about meds that can help you.

My friend with PCOS seriously thought she was losing her mind as she had an intense weight gain in a short period of time, depression, anxiety and other physical girl problems. She lost self esteem and a sense of herself. Took two yrs. to diagnosis after dropping out of college. But now she is back having lost some weight and steadied herself with the right drugs. Self esteem rebuilding.

You will make great friends at school being yourself and will natuarally become friends w/ people who are not so shallow as to not get to know you because of your weight. If half these college kids could see their physical image in ten years they would be much nicer to those with extra lbs.

HiWei

Wow... was that really necessary? Tulane is a fine academic institution, not a punching bag you should be hitting around.

Do NOT listen to this kid; 1000 calories/day for anyone unless you're a toddler is called a starvation diet. It is absolutely not healthy for anyone and especially if you have an illness that affects weight. ElderCookies, while I'm sure you're relatively thin now and have fine self-esteem, you might want to make sure you don't have additional health issues stemming from (what would have to be) a prolonged malnourishment. Note, I'm not a health expert.

SkyGirl

They are a lot of people who look good outside, but are ugly and spoiled to the core inside. I rather have friends who have good hearts than good looks.
JacquiC, the thing is in every social environment there are different types of people. You will find those genuine friends who value your personality, but you are going to meet a lot of mean superficial idiots too. So you got to learn to rate people too by their characters and avoid the superficial plastic crowd.

ambiguity

I knew a girl in high school who was a good 70lbs overweight, and everyone I knew thought she was just ridiculously awesome. She was the only fat girl among the image conscious high-status crowd, and until I had a class with her I never understood it. She, to put it plainly, oozed self esteem. People liked her because she made them happy.

People aren't going to lose the high school cruelty overnight, and a lot of people retain that quality throughout life. The only thing you can really do to combat people's immediate negative judgment of you is to be the girl that everyone likes, that everyone wants to know.

Please don't judge the occasionally superficial people too harshly. Some of us, me included, grew up viewing fat people as being the scary vision of what we too could become. Any dislike of you because you are fat is less of a reflection on you as it is a reflection on us.

Kamera

I have PCOS and am overweight also - and it blows. I've lost weight, and gained it back, and lost it, and gained it back...this disease really does screw up your weight, among other things.

Have you tried metformin? Not only does it help prevent diabetes, but it also can help with weight loss. At a price - it can also make you really nauseated. But if you go on it slowly, you can avoid most of the bad side-effects.

I'm also doing diet and exercise - and it does work. But it works -slowly-, and it's hard. You really do have to push yourself to lose the weight, especially with PCOS. I feel for you - and we can BOTH do it if we try, I'm sure of it.

Dr.Horse

Being fat or big will never affect you, inless you let it, this is for HS or College. Women are drawn to one thing and only one thing in men and that's confidence. Im a very big guy, almost 360 lbs at 6'3". It has never affected me at all.

My attitude goes as follows. If you don't like me F-uck you. Its that simple, I can give 2 craps what people think of me, it just doesn't matter. Ive also had alot of skinnier guys on dates, call me and the girl out. They would ask her, why she was with me. I would always win because I with with the girl and they were in a group of 3-5 dudes.



I actually rented the book. "Eat this, Not that" from the Library and its a really nice book. No diets, just make healthier choices and have fun exercising.



and Russell7, Doctors have found that, high intensity training doesn't do much more than low intensity. Most doctors now recommend going for two 20 minute walks or speed walks over a 20 minute run.

Russell7

What were the conditions of "doing more." Doing more what?

Low intensity cardio (for longer sessions) is good because it depletes glycogen stores and allows you to burn fat directly from your cardio. Low intensity cardio is something like jogging.

High intensity is good because of how much it raises your metabolism. High intensity is something like interval training, incorporating sprinting and either walking or jogging.

The effects of them are completely different, but both beneficial, which is why I recommend doing them both. However, if I could only pick one, it'd be low intensity for 1 hour+. 20 minutes just isn't enough to deplete glycogen and start burning fat.

And yeah, that 1000 calorie diet recommended by whoever is not a good idea. Those diets put you in a state of starvation and drastically lower your metabolism.

3365

"she is looking for a school that is tolerant of fat people"

hope you don't go to usc and ucla.

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