JacquiC

So I'm pretty overweight, and I'm off to college in the fall. While in high school it wasn't the biggest deal ever, I felt like it affected my social life, perhaps because of others being repulsed, or maybe it was because I isolated myself because I'm self-conscious of the fact. I wasn't the loseriest of losers, I had friends and was reasonably well liked because I have fairly good social skills and all that. I'm not going to try and make excuses for why I'm fat, because too many overweight people do that and it ****es me off too, but I've had polycystic ovarian syndrome since I hit puberty, makes it reaaaally hard to lose weight and even though I've really tried to lose weight since I gained it, like eating well and exercising, it hasn't budged much at all. It sucks, but what can you do? Anyways, I was wondering if weight matters more, less, or about the same in college.

Thanks

Shrinkrap

Don't have In answer but best wishes!

darthk

If your talking about dating from my experience:

If your a guy, no.
If your a girl, yes.

themovies

I imagine it would really depend on the college. Setting aside factors like the degree to which you vary from the norm (since the norm will vary from school to school), I would assume that at a small, private women's college you might find there's relatively greater acceptance of variation in body type.

More to the point, while you cannot control how other people view you, there is always room for improvement in self-image. It's easier to tolerate an unpleasant response from others if you're not kicking yourself too.

ArtOfMind_21

work out !!!!!

NotAmbidextrous

being fat any time is bad. lose the weight for YOU...not to get dates!

LesOs

There will always be people who won't be friends with you because you're overweight, but those are the types of people that you wouldn't want to be friends with in the first place (cheesy, yes, but true).

What's important is that you don't let your weight define you. I have a friend who would probably be thought of as overweight, but no one labels her as "fat." She wears flattering clothes, has a very healthy lifestyle, and, most importantly, is not obsessed with her weight. She's "larger" because of genetics, and she has either accepted it or she simply doesn't care. The fact that she is so comfortable with her body precludes any judgment against her.

I do still think that you should eat healthy food and exercise. Even if you don't end up being a size zero (and who does?), your confidence will go up, you'll be happier, and you'll look healthier, too. You should exercise to feel better, though, not to get a six pack (because that probably won't happen). Also, you need to exercise a lot until you see results. If you work out, you might burn 400ish calories, but 3,500 calories = one pound. So you won't see instant results, but you'll feel the results instantly.

mildred

From what I can gather, you have weight issues because of an illness which is beyond your control. Therefore (but only if you personally want to), you need to seek a doctor's council in order to try and see how you can incorporate exercise and the like into your lifestyle.

Be proud of who and what you are inside. If you try your best to keep your self confidence in check and if you try your best to carry yourself proudly, then that will carry you far in this life.

bdmrad

Eat less, exercise more!! keep a food diary. Obesity is a serious long term health risk.

ad.bc

um don't take this the wrong way, but maybe you should try to become friends with larger people, you know? because that way they won't pressure you to lose weight and they won't judge you for your appearance. Also they've probably had similar situation as you so they can understand you better. If you hang around skinny people you might end up feeling like the one who doesn't belong. and some people are mean and don't want to be friends with overweight people just because of how they look but those people aren't the type of people who are true friends anyway.

just how overweight are you? if it's less than 30 lbs overweight i don't think its a big problem when it comes to dating. not all guys like skinny girls you know. as long as you're not looking for a guy with a perfect body, then you should be able to find someone with the same standards of yourself. actually i see a lot of skinny guy/big girl couples for some reason.

PS i think you're kind of using your disease as an excuse. its a fairly common problem and the people who i know who had it were not overweight. if you don't eat the calories, they can't make you gain weight. you should stay away from snacks and processed foods and eat more vegetables. the less you eat the less you want to eat because your stomach shrinks. also food is kind of like an addiction and you have to break the habit.

JacquiC

This isn't really for dating purposes, but more of a reality check on how the lifestyle is there and if it really is much different. I'm really not looking for words of comfort, so you don't have to worry about hurting my feelings, seriously thank you for answering me so honestly.

ab.dc I'm about 35 pounds overweight.

I tried to make clear I totally am trying to not use my hormone problems as a crutch or an excuse, guess that didn't work, but I am really aware it was my own choices/laziness/lack of motivation that make me I look the way that I do. When I started gaining the weight I worked out REALLY hard, because I was always active before, average weight, and I didn't get why I was ballooning all of a sudden, didn't know what was wrong, and I just got really discouraged. That was when I was like 13, and I only just got diagnosed now at 17. Again, not excuses, thats just my history, and I've already changed my lifestyle.

I'm running 6 days a week, strength training 3 days a week and eating fresh foods, lots of veggies, limiting calories, drinking a bunch of water, taking medication to even out my hormones and all that jazz and it really does feel better. I've already lost 10 pounds from my original 45 pounds overweight and I'm much less stressy and gross feeling. So I'm already on the road, but since all the weight I have to lose isn't going to be totally gone by September, I wanted to check out what people thought.

Thanks again, this is truly appreciated!

gs1002

personality and confidence is everything. as long as you're fun to be around, people won't take much notice. once you get to college, find some people to work out with.

Shrinkrap

^ I agree. Queen Latifah makes it look fine!

siglio21

"...polycystic ovarian syndrome"

ouch

LinkGCN4

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