Parent's need to stop living through their kids--Look at the parent's message board

spacemancraig · 08-29-2005, 02:43 PM

Ok, we all see them around our school. There are just some kids are being forced by their parents to do well, it's like their oarents are just living through them. I know some people who's parents force them to study 24/7 and they can't play video games or go on the computer or anything. Like the parents form has the most posts, I think some parents need to chill. And there's even a post, "Should I let my child use IM and VIdeogames" (or something along those lines).... What are these people thinking? Out of the top 10 people in my class, including myself, there are 3 (including myself)kids whos parents CARE, but don't taze them when they look away from a book, and we happen to be number 1, 2 and 5 and president of several clubs and actually have hobbies. The other kids seemed to be forced to do everything. Like, for example, this girl who has straight A's for the most part started crying when she got a B+ in our extraordinarily hard history class (which had a total of 7 A's for final grades). Also, this other guy's parents made him go up to the hardest math class(mulit variable calc) when he was a freshman, then he flunked went back down to geometry in 9th grade and he's taking it with us as seniors this year. Yeah, um, I'm tired of seeing peoples' parents live trhough their kids. Look at the parents forms, has the most threads then any other 2 combined.....

dke · 08-29-2005, 02:52 PM

I"m a parent and I couldn't agree with you more. I spoke to a mother the other day who told me that she wanted her two sons to go to the same southern U. that she and her husband attended. They're still in middle school...They're just looked at as extensions of their parents with no individuality or identity of their own. Very sad and hard on kids.

filmxoxo17 · 08-29-2005, 03:05 PM

Most of the parents here are just chewing the fat. LOL, I wouldn't call most of them the obsessive type, even though I've spotted a few who are realllllllly annoying. I actually like the parents' presence on this site for the most part because their advice often stems more from experience than from speculation. I've got a few horrible helicopter parents at my school. They're monsters. One thing I think is funny is the uproar that was on the thread about overinvolved parents. Okay, it wasn;t uproar, but there were several closet helicopter parents who were defending their rights to call up a college administrator any time they want and harass them for the full $40,000 price tag they paid.

meateater0387 · 08-29-2005, 03:12 PM

There are certainly some over-involved parents here. I don't really understand how they have so much time to chit chat on message boards. Don't they have jobs? As soon as I go back to school I will maybe post once a day so I don't see what's up.

filmxoxo17 · 08-29-2005, 03:13 PM

Yeah I always wondered where they got all the time.

Private_Joker · 08-29-2005, 03:37 PM

They care for the kids. None of them are that bad. I agree with film. The parents are a million times more helpful than some sixteen/seventeen year olds. I find myself on the Parent's forums more than I do on the high school forums, <- now, that's a waste of time. The parents' posts are often times amusing and insightful. Of course, some parents can be a little too obsessive.

fireflyscout · 08-29-2005, 04:20 PM

Part of the reason I love to post here is because there are other parents who have actually HEARD of the colleges in which my daughter is interested. Most of my neighbors can't see past UT/A&M, so I take refuge here.

joev · 08-29-2005, 05:27 PM

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Part of the reason I love to post here is because there are other parents who have actually HEARD of the colleges in which my daughter is interested.

I have been on this message board for a year or two now, and I still am convinced that people make up some of these colleges until I see something about one of them on the news. I am from the school that a good Division 1 football team makes a great college, except U of M

spacemancraig · 08-29-2005, 05:47 PM

I'm not talking about people who come here to give a little. get a little advice.... I'm talking more about the pareny who sticks their child in Multi variable calc as a frosh, which is a 3rd semester college math course and I think only a dozen seniors are taking it this year, so a freshmna is just insane unless they are on track to prove string theory.

Private_Joker · 08-29-2005, 07:43 PM

But, most parents won't do that to their kids, space. I have seen a few who do get caught up in the frenzy and push their children to take two or three APs freshmen year

, but they are in the minority.

sarorah · 08-29-2005, 08:48 PM

Oh man, I can so agree, I mean it's good and all that parents wanna get involved but seriously, some need to lay off. My parents are those over acheiver types, so it really sucks for me. they think I should get the best grades on everything, and they limit computer time and TV time. and I do want to be what they want me to be, cuz they've put in so much effort u know, but it's really annoying when u just wanna chill and they want u to always study and be on top, like they want the nobel prize outta u or something. My siblings and I can get so frustrated sometimes, and I think that's what leads to over anxious, suicidal tendencies in children, because the parents are just putting to much damn stress on their kids.

joev · 08-29-2005, 09:03 PM

We need some of these parents you guys are talking about in the Cleveland public schools!

JimmyEatWorld711 · 08-29-2005, 09:30 PM

There was an Asian girl who lives about 10 minutes from me who stabbed her mom last week. Apparently she happened to be on acid at the time, but right before the stabbing they were arguing over whether the girl should stay home and study or go out with her boyfriend.

This is, uh, somewhat pertinent.

megha · 08-29-2005, 10:11 PM

that's just sad, and it's exactly what happens when parents completely shut all lines of communication with their children and keep pushing them intp places where they hate being.I myself had a very hard time getting the "my daughter must be a surgeon !" phobia out of my mother's mind, and this happened only after I managed to live through 2 years pre-med in high-school.Sheesh...

dragonreborn · 08-29-2005, 10:25 PM

Im not a parent but I think what you said is very true. A great example is..I just had a round of arguments with my dad. Reasonable evidence cannot overide a parent's stubborness and closemindedness. So I'm feeling like living through hell right this minute. It's so sad. The worst thing is the lack of freedom...