So, I'm starting this thread because there are all these 'gay friendly' college lists out there. But as a gay kid looking for a school to go to, a lot of the criteria on the 'gay friendly' lists didn't matter one iota to me. While it's great if there's a GLBT lounge or a lot of allies or benefits for the same-sex partners of faculty and staff - and while all of these can in some ways indicate a gay-friendly 'culture' at a university - to an extent they are independent of what GLBT people really care about when they are evaluating the gay life aspect of a university: the number of people they can date.
Most gay people come from high schools where they only know one or two gay kids (including themselves). Some have been bullied but most have simply been isolated. Having a "safe" space isn't nearly as important as having a "gay space."
With that said, let's not take this topic too seriously in a sense that we get a lot of argument over whether or not the GLBT-friendly lists are viable and useful and if so, to what extent they are. Though, some debate is fine because that's healthy, right? Rather, let us simply admit that they are missing a key piece of information, and to that end, let us fill the gap .
What schools have a LOT (as in, a high percentage) of queer-identifid individuals? Specify whether they have large gay or lesbian populations, because a lot of schools are known for having a lot of gay males but not a lot of women (NYU, Yale) while other schools have plenty of gay women (Smith, most women's colleges in general) but are severely lacking in dudes.
And, I already said Smith/many women's colleges, NYU, and Yale, so get creative .