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Marriage After College.

Soon2BEngineerSoon2BEngineer Posts: 105Registered User Junior Member
edited June 2011 in College Life
How many people plan to get married after or even during college?

Are the people of my generation interested in marriage at a young age?

For me, I actually don't plan to get married until after 30. I want to live out the single life alone for a good while. Plus, with all the divorce stories you hear nowadays, I don't want to get married too quickly only for the marriage to break up years later.

If I'm going to marry, I want it to last which means I'm going to be in a relationship with 'the one' for a while before proposing, just to make sure it's love.

The only way I could see myself getting married in my 20s is if the right woman came along and snatched my heart up.

How about you?
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Replies to: Marriage After College.

  • Marco117Marco117 Posts: 529Registered User Member
    Like with you i'm looking at getting married at around 30. I plan to go to Grad or Law School after my undergrad and I want to be finished with school when I get married. I've heard that a few of my old classmates have gotten engaged (And cancelled the engagment) but I don't know of any that have or plan to get married. The only friend of min that wants to get married is planning on going into the army and she and her boyfriend plan to marry before she and he get shipped off. I know of a girl that got pregnant maybe last year and married and currently lives with her boyfriend.

    On another note my friends father told him and I yesterday that if you get married now it won't last and that we should wait. Personally i'm in no rush and thats what I plan to do.
  • mmiiaammiiaa Posts: 102Registered User Junior Member
    I, too, plan to get married around 30. Hopefully no later but definitely no sooner, unless, like OP said, I meet some super super awesome guy. I want to go to grad school and have a career somewhat down before I become someone's wife...

    But I'm from the South, and half of my friends are engaged/married and are about my age (18,19) which my family thinks is crazy. My best friend who goes to UA wants to get married before she turns 25 and some people think marrying at 23 is even old. But that's some old southern people or just really southern friends of mine. The younger the better I guess.. And most marriages seem to work out, so, yeah?
  • sunnyfloridasunnyflorida Posts: 4,790Registered User Senior Member
    A parent here, but you sound just the way my D's boyfriend sounded a few years ago. That is until he met her. Now I am praying that he waits until he has his PhD (2 years down and three to go) and she has her Masters (three to go as well) before he proposes. They have been dating for 18 mos. Suddenly, waiting until then--28--seems old to him. I am thankful that his grad stipend is not enough to help pay for a ring. I love him dearly but my D is a few years younger and I am hoping they wait a bit.

    Your on the right track. Wait, make sure it is right, then make it work!
  • hyperJuliehyperJulie Posts: 1,499Registered User Senior Member
    I am totally ready to get married, but unfortunately I don't have the money for a wedding, and I'm concerned about how marriage will affect my financial aid, so I have to wait for now.

    Hopefully soon we'll be in the financial situation to start planning a wedding so that we can get engaged. After almost six years together, we keep getting questions and it's getting kind of old.
  • Marco117Marco117 Posts: 529Registered User Member
    I know this one girl. Both of us are really good friends and have talked about dating. Without going into a lot of details if I dated her I could imagine being ready to marry her in 2-3 years. She's that great. However, knowing her she'd want to wait till she finished school like me. Just giving an example of where I could see myself getting married earlier.
  • patty4schoolpatty4school Posts: 58Registered User Junior Member
    30 is a perfect age for a man to get married because it gives them enough time to mature.
    For a woman in the other hand, if they want to have children, they need to get married before 26. If not it will be harder to have kids and whatever patience they have with kids runs put by the time they hit 30. All that of course is just the generalization people make in my culture. (I still believe it though >.>)
  • jym626jym626 Posts: 36,004Registered User Senior Member
    LOL patty, That is a generalization (spoken a parent who married just after turning 31 and had kids at 33 and 37). I think I'd have had less patience if I had my kids when I was younger. With age comes wisdom, and less energy!!
  • cptofthehousecptofthehouse Posts: 24,538Registered User Senior Member
    It seems to be a regional thing. In this area, and in my circles, very few marriages before the 30s. In the South and the West, it isn't unusual to see folks marrying earlier, having their kids earlier.

    I see benefits both ways, and have no idea what is better. It's not like some of these kids make good use of those years that they are single, and their activities often just extend immaturity and irresponsibility. On the other hand, marrying too young has its consequences that can involve a lot of other people, particularly poignant when children become involved.

    Those going to the more selective schools tend to marry later, it seem to me.

    My friends from high school, a number of whom did not go to college and with kids who also did not are already grandparents with grandkids in their teens, the same age as my youngest. There won't be any 5 generation picture in our family since none of us married and had kids early.
  • romanigypsyeyesromanigypsyeyes Posts: 22,726Registered User Senior Member
    I have one friend who is getting married after his junior year. He and his fianc
  • PRiNCESSMAHiNAPRiNCESSMAHiNA Posts: 2,120Registered User Senior Member
    I know a couple who are juniors in college and engaged. They alternate living together in their parents houses (school year in hers, summer in his). They've been together since they were freshman.
    I also have a friend who's been dating the same guy for a year and a half. They moved in to an apartment her parents bought them and are planning to get married after she graduates. Unlike the other couple who are the same age, they have a huge age gap (12 years) so I don't know if that one will work out.
    I think that for me it would be difficult to get married directly after college. I would have too many student loans and I want to be able to start off my new life with a clean slate.
  • yg7s7yg7s7 Posts: 876Registered User Member
    I don't want to get married at all. I feel like marriage is gonna be a burden and I just want to support myself only with the money I earn.
  • rymdrymd Posts: 1,055- Member
    I know a girl who got married during high school and a girl who got married senior year of college. Both marriages were arranged though... lol
  • yg7s7yg7s7 Posts: 876Registered User Member
    ^I bet they are Asian
  • cloudman7777cloudman7777 Posts: 197Registered User Junior Member
  • DrBatmanDrBatman Posts: 50Registered User New Member
    I'm getting married at the end of my first semester of my freshman year of college and I'll still be 17, and plan on going to medical school.
    I think it just depends on the relationship and the people.

    We aren't having kids for a while though. No freaking way.
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