I hate to party.. Will I still be able to make friends?

SilentGirl · 08-22-2011, 11:31 PM

Honestly I do not think I am like a normal college person. I really do not like to party, I feel awkard, I don't find it fun to drink and listen to loud music. I have a little social anxiety and I think that might be part of the reason I do not like that. I am over the whole getting drunk thing.

Also I am paying a ton for college so I want to spend enough time studying and working on my homework. I still want to make friends and am worried that I won't because I do not like to party.

I don't mind going to football games, or out to eat/movie/shopping with friends, but I also don't mine staying in my dorm and watching a movie. Will I still be able to make friends?

I just really want to concentrate on my studies. I want to atleast have a small social life, I am really worried I will not fit in..

Any advice?

NervusBreakdown · 08-22-2011, 11:34 PM

i'm only an incoming freshman like you but let's use common sense. there are thousands of people at your school - you WILL find others who share the same interests as you. and no, not every college student likes loud music and drinking, that's statistically impossible.

one thing i don't get though is why you HATE partying? hate is a pretty strong word. you don't have to get drunk at parties. heck you might not even have to drink. there are many kinds of parties.

romanigypsyeyes · 08-22-2011, 11:35 PM

Yes.

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icedragon · 08-22-2011, 11:37 PM

not everyone likes the sterotypical "parties" I sure as hell don't and i've been able to make friends.

Not that hard, really (and i'm like the worlds most socially awkward person).

LeoLibby82 · 08-23-2011, 12:27 AM

My roommates don't party, or anything. However, we are all in our mid to late 20s.

Vihzel · 08-23-2011, 12:27 AM

I hate unnecessarily loud music where you have to yell so that the person in front of you can hear and being around obnoxious wasted people. You will definitely find friends in college that match your interests. I found a lot of friends who share my interests of going to operas, orchestra performances, language clubs, etc. I would consider myself someone who never got into the whole "stereotypical college party" scene because it didn't interest me at all. I never carry alcohol in my own apartment unless a friend who does drink wants to have a few.

djamieson · 08-23-2011, 01:53 AM

SilentGirl - Seems like you're pretty much saying you're a shy introvert who prefers studying and watching a movie alone rather than partying and hanging out with friends.

Yes, you will still be able to make friends, I'm assuming that you have some social skills which let you hold a conversation with someone? However since you insist on study>society, whether these people are really friends or more so acquaintances you can say hello to is a different story.

I can only give a bit of unbiased advice when I hear people say 'I don't like to party'. Not only do I not understand why someone would enjoy it, I also doubt whether such people genuinely dislike it, or just dislike their experiences with it mainly due to the fact that they are too shy and lack confidence to such a great extent that they spend their time standing in the corner.

romanigypsyeyes · 08-23-2011, 01:57 AM

Ok, seriously... some people just don't like parties. I can't stand loud music or drunk obnoxious people. I get migraines easily and it's just not fun for me. I have a lot of friends even though I'm a shy person.

@dj- I hate parties and I'm an extremely confident person. I genuinely dislike them. I'd much rather have a quiet night with close friends than be around a bunch of random strangers.

Majjestic · 08-23-2011, 02:51 AM

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I can only give a bit of unbiased advice when I hear people say 'I don't like to party'. Not only do I not understand why someone would enjoy it, I also doubt whether such people genuinely dislike it, or just dislike their experiences with it mainly due to the fact that they are too shy and lack confidence to such a great extent that they spend their time standing in the corner.

Don't you have better things to do like going to parties or engaging in your vibrant social life rather than being here on CC and trolling people who supposedly lack confidence and are shy "losers"? Or are you just trying to live a lie on the net and you are just that insecure about your life?

excelblue · 08-23-2011, 05:12 AM

The only requirement is that you be social, not that you party. How do you think true introverts get all their friends?

paradox3 · 08-23-2011, 08:32 AM

You will find people who feel just like you do, you may also try to live in some sort of wellness hall for people who are not interested in any of that scene.

NervusBreakdown · 08-23-2011, 12:54 PM

my advice is to at least try it once.

inNeedOfPencils · 08-23-2011, 02:20 PM

Partying isn't the norm--it's just the part that society knows the most. It's like a stereotype. But the majority of people (at least in my school, and the schools I've seen) don't party. You can be social without partying. It's pretty easy.

Hauteclere · 08-23-2011, 02:26 PM

I don't understand what's fun about getting drunk and making a fool of yourself in front of others. I never will.

I also don't understand what's fun about sleeping around like a drunk slut.

lapras · 08-23-2011, 03:32 PM

^ I don't see how drinking is analogous to being a slut, but ok. And as long as someone is being safe and not giving their sexual partners any hope of a real relationship, I don't see how it's an issue/your business.